In three years of participation here on the forum, I've never actually heard of anyone dying during the surgery, though at various times I've seen figures of one in 100 or one in 200. I've always questioned those numbers.
But, the question is, what shape were those men in at the time of the surgery? Perhaps they were not very good candidates for major surgery. What's your father's general health? Like everyone else I know who has had surgery via the DaVinci robotic machine, I had to undergo some pretty extensive health checks at age 65 before my doctor would sign off on the surgery. For me, that included a complete blood panel, and even a nuclear stress test and a visit to a cardiologist.
Others more knowledgeable than I might question the wisdom of surgery in the case of a Gleason 4 + 5. Radiation coupled with hormone therapy might be a wiser choice for such an aggressive cancer, and I'm not sure how the doctor can say with confidence that it hasn't already escaped the prostate capsule, in which case, the value of surgery would be especially questionable.
Right now, your father is undoubtedly going through a lot of mental turmoil, and it's not unrealistic to imagine that he's thinking about the end of life, but hopefully you'll both have each other's company for years to come. Good luck to both of you.
Post Edited (clocknut) : 9/26/2013 8:18:24 PM (GMT-6)