I think you are at the dilemma we all reach at one point in time. If I recall correctly, we recently had someone here do the surgery against the doc's preferences. I think that person had something like a 9% chance of success with surgery alone. If you have surgery and then need the radiation and ADT as well, you are looking at a double-whammy with side effects.
Have you looked at the nomograms and Partin tables - predictive tools that tell you how likely you are to have success with surgery alone, vs. how likely you are to need adjuvant therapy? You can find the Sloan Kettering stuff here:
http://www.mskcc.org/cancer-care/adult/prostate/prediction-tools
My numbers were lower risk than yours and my long term prognosis for surgery alone was very good. My long term prognosis for brachytherapy, possibly with some external beam radiation was also very good.
If the surgery outlook had been poor, I probably would have gone straight to radiation and ADT if needed, although I admit that after fighting low testosterone for years, doing ADT is something that really scares me in terms of quality of life.
Ultimately, and regretfully, you are your loved ones have to make the final call. And you don't get a do-over. I think most people settle on something that they are relatively happy with (or tolerant of) and proceed. Some people have longer to decide than others. You might not be in that group though at G8.
The confusion over t3a vs. t2a certainly complicates your decision. Can you try any imaging options to determine more clearly which of those is correct?
Best of luck and keep us informed how things proceed.
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