Orgasm after prostate surgery

23 days ago my prostate was taken from me. Facinated to read a guy can orgasm without an erection.

I am not yet able to get anything close to an erection, but the little guy does seem to be making an effort.

I go to my urologist in 23 days and I will ask him when it would be safe to try and masterbate.
My curiosity is strong but I don't want to try if I might hurt myself.
I probably will wait till I see my surgeon, but is there some sort of waiting period that is needed given the surgery ? I had a robotic procedure.

Change in your drugs lately?

I asked because some antidepressants can cause the problem you describe.

It is, sadly, fairly common with men who have had prostate surgery. If it continues you should talk to your doctor about it. You could ask him/her about this study that found the drug Cabergoline quite helpful for men in your situation.

www.everydayhealth.com/sexual-health/0524/drug-restores-normal-orgasm-in-men.aspx

Dont analyse things too much, just do it
and ENJOY!

I had good erections a few weeks post RP, then a major dip in performance and rigidity; things are much better now - Firmness has returned and staying power. For a while there I had painful orgasms but the encouraging thing was, I’d have a really solid erection prior to orgasm, even if I started with a very very flaccid penis. Some men have flaccid penis orgasm, I must admit that I’ve never had those, my penis somehow remembered that rigidity is required prior to orgasm!

So Tarzan, its a journey! Enjoy the pit stops along the way.
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Dynageno,

It sounds like your doctor may have done a terrible job in the education department. There are so many threads on this site that cover these topics. A search might be the best way to find them.

Many people don't get erections until 12-18 months post-surgery, or even later. However, with the use of vacuum erection devices, PDE5 inhibitors, and injected medications, you might see them much sooner.

It is absolutely possible to have an orgasm without an erection. Many people don't know that until this beast of a disease strikes us, and we are getting ready for treatment or we've gone through the treatment.

In many cases, depending on age, erectile function before surgery, surgical technique (nerve sparing or not), etc., erections will not naturally return.

But, based on surgery in May, it's way too early to assume you will never have them again.

I had surgery in January. I can have erections with the VED or injections, although I prefer the latter. And, over the last 8 weeks, I'm seeing a gradual return to erections without those devices, with the help of Cialis. I have not yet had an erection usable for penetration from stimulation and Cialis, but it's getting close.

I'm sure others will step in and offer more detailed information. My first thought is that I don't want you to think that your sex life is completely over based on surgery about 3 months ago.

dynageno,
Your surgeon's lack of patient education about SE's and plans or options to overcome them borders on malpractice as far as I'm concerned. I recommend that you find a new doctor for the next phase of this journey. That said, even my famous surgeon didn't go into a lot of detail about what I would face after surgery. It's easy to site statistics about % of recovery, but the details.... they don't say much. You will get a far better education here. So, yes you can (will) have orgasms even without an erection. And there are several ways to have erections as well, before your natural response recovers. And as others have said, that might take a while. Odd that I'm giving you this advice while I'm still hoping for my own recovery...