jegan, glad you found us but sorry you need to be here on behalf of your family member. Likely a number of people will be along shortly, but as something of the G9 concierge let me welcome you here. Lots of knowledgeable people here, all just other folks with this disease but many have been living with it a long time.
I'll add you to the Gleason 9 Crew roster. It's in this link, a gathering place for G9 cases to find some specific support, history, and others with similar diagnoses. You'll find a lot of Gleason 9 cases, most doing well.
www.healingwell.com/community/default.aspx?f=35&m=3182035For your specific questions:
1) Nobody, but nobody, can give you a survival time estimate that means much at all. This disease progresses differently in everybody. Some much shorter, some much longer. about
all we can do is throw everything at it that we have, and live it out. We have a well-known forum member, Todd1963, that had a very dire diagnosis and is presently living out loud, with an undetectable PSA about
9 years later. It's just not predictable, and not really a good path to tread mentally.
2) Did the delay worsen things? Maybe, probably, but how much is unknowable. It's also not anything to fuss about
, since all you really have is a bright, shining, *now*. Play the ball where it lies.
3) Given the stage of the situation, hormonal, immunotherapeutic, and chemo treatments are the primary tools. Usually starting with hormonal therapy, this can control the situation for a couple years to several years. In the hormone therapy vein, there are some basics (Lupron, Casodex), then supercharged versions of them if/when the PSA starts rising while still on them (Zytiga, Xtandi). Eventually HT stops being effective, and then you're on to chemo and so on. There is recent data indicating early chemo has a significant positive effect. They used to save it until very late in the disease process, but a recent study showed a very large benefit (17 months) if it's done right up front (though after hormone resistance sets in).
We have some folks dealing with this exact situation, and they'll be along to help and (hopefully) to correct if I've stated something wrong in #3.