JNF said...
... In my first visit he reviewed my health information including PSA and gave me a urologic exam with DRE and checking my groin area and testicles. He immediately stated that he could feel a nodule on the prostate and with that information and high PSA he scheduled a biopsy. He then spent a good 15 minutes explaining the procedure and introduced me to the PA that does all the biopsies. I was scheduled the same week.
Two days after the biopsy he called and confirmed the positive result. He scheduled a meeting about three days later at the end of the day. He said it would take a couple of hours and he would have some dinner for us. In the meeting he first provided me all the written biopsy info and went over it in great detail discussing each core with it's location, G, PNI, amount of involvement etc. He then went through nomograms to show probability of being outside the capsule. He then took me through the particulars of every treatment known with documents about each procedure, the efficacy in high risk, and the side effects. HIFU, Cryo, surgery, seeds, HDR, external beam, Proton, ADT, etc. He even explained Provenge as it was just coming on the treatment horizon.
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Wow, wow, wow. I'm not sure I knew that background. That is impressive. Dinner? Sheesh.
No doctor I've ever had was that thorough. My RO was the best, spending probably an hour and a half with me patiently going through all the details. Every other doctor I ever deal with seems like they have their hand on the doorknob as soon as we begin talking.
My uro onc at our "diagnosis review", I suppose it would be called, spent 15-20 minutes with us in the office with a fairly high-level view of the situation. I like detail, and not a lot was deemed pertinent to treatment decisions. It was going to be a vicious surgery, or maybe radiation with HT. That's it. After that meeting was the only time I've seen my wife truly upset (significant water-works), since there just wasn't much good news. There was no candy-coating of anything, just brief and direct.
I don't realistically expect anything more of doctors. A mechanic doesn't need to know how the car feels about
a transmission repair. That's all we are to a doctor, generally, a defective meat machine that needs some kind of repair procedure. Go through the flow chart (eg NCCN), select treatment, apply, collect payment. They're under enormous time pressure, and you have to see a lot of patients to pay for insurance (oh, and BMWs, 10000 sq ft homes, boats, and so on).
Having said that though, my RO did seem to take a genuine interest and had very good follow up. Maybe that's why I don't regret my radiation treatment decisions; we had quite in-depth discussion about
the whats and hows.