Tdubb said...
The worst advice comes from those who haven't been through it. I'm not sure why the treated want to have newbies jump on their bandwagon.. It would be so much better to let them make educated decisions for themselves. After all they have actual certified physicians for that. There are downfalls of ALL treatments and to try and sell one over another is just poor advice. Maybe those who advise need to validate their own choices?.. Just a thought
PDA said...
Of course we do. How could we not?
EDIT: sigh, I see I just did it again: responded to an old thread)
Truly, I don't think I have ever acted to validate my own choice. Oh, true, I needed to, and wanted to, but it just can't be done. I can come up with some relative advantages for my choice, such as having that path report showing a focal positive margin and SV+, telling myself in the past that I would not know about
those unpleasant items if I had had RT. But so what? I suppose I also would have had those areas covered automatically with all RT for high risk, right? Something I may have to do anyway someday. So I would not have known for sure that getting the margins covered with RT would turn out to be a good thing in my case, so what? I think I could have lived without that knowledge, wondering if that RT at the margins did me any good or not. Along with likely some far less devastating SEs as I sat at home and wondered about
it. Nope, I'm not likely to try and validate my choices to a noob. In fact I have to work hard not to do the opposite, trying not to force my opinions on folks who often have already made their choice. Although there was that one guy that called me, I believe as I was just starting a hike, wanted to talk since was scheduled with my same surgeon. He just wanted to know how I felt about
it all, and there I was, hiking in the woods while telling him. I believe he unscheduled his surgery for some other treatment. I can't remember who that was. I hope it worked out well for him.