JNF said...
...But her other comment about G10 men not being around in 10 years is also troubling. The correct response to that would be to find a MO who pledged to do all it takes to keep you around for at least another ten years...
Doctors are guessing about
such things, and I'd hate to see them limit treatment options out of some sort of misguided fatalism.
My grandfather had a kind of large bump on his shoulder. One time I asked him about
it, and he said it was from breaking his collar bone and that's the way it healed, although it didn't have to be that way.
Apparently, in about
1922 he was in a serious car accident in a Model T. He was barely conscious, and overheard the doctors discussing that broken bone. They actually said they wouldn't bother with it, since he wasn't going to survive anyway! Well, he did, and lived the rest of his life with a problem that could have been fixed by a less pessimistic doctor.
I don't want doctors to lie to me. I don't want them to candy-coat anything, or "avoid bad news", nor do I want a sky-is-falling type. Just tell me the numbers, give me options and odds. Let's just be real about
what we do and don't know, what we can and can't do, and what may or may not help. Let me decide if the side effects are worth the benefits.