dnny-700 said...
Thanks everyone for the replies. @suttersmill, I believe my uro mentioned it would be an oral sedative.
In retrospect, I wish I just had skipped the MRI and got the biopsy earlier. The endorectoral probe insertion was unpleasant and the second opinion uro mentioned that might be actually worse than a biopsy.
These past few months have been horrible. I haven't been sleeping very well and it's been effecting me at home and work with mild anxiety attacks and depression. I just wish I was counseled or made aware of the PSA test during my physical. I had no idea what PSA screening was about and as soon as you Google it and hear "cancer", it feels like a death sentence. I am still very angry about my doctor and will probably replace him at some point.
Odds of getting prostate cancer in my age range is about 44 out of 1000. I've never been that lucky (or unlucky) in my entire life!
The fear and anxiety that comes along with an illness and cancer are real and in my own personal experience have affected my life greatly and I did not realize how much after diagnosis and treatment. All of the things that go through the mind of a middle-aged man struck down in the prime of life resonate - - loss of physical health and spiritual well-being, possible change or ability to physically love your spouse, loss of physical strength, loss of job and/or the ability to support your family financially. All of these things have happened to me over the last 5 years. Anxiety and depression affected my work performance and I was terminated from my job in 2013 when undergoing follow-up radiation therapy. I felt like everyone in town then knew that I had been treated for cancer and would not hire me as a result. I then started my own business and struggled financially for 2 years working as an independent contractor with 4 different part-time self-employment gigs. Then my father died of prostate cancer and had watched him struggle and fight through the last 10 years of his life. I witnessed the depression and anxiety that come with advanced stage cancer treatment. He often called me to tell me about
his PSA and lament about
how he wished he had done this and that in his retirement years.
After his death I was hired by a company which has helped stabilize my financial situation but still have kept my part-time self employment on weekends to pay down debt. Earlier this year just as I thought I was rounding the cancer-free corner my PSA started creeping up. My physical health and mental well-being was just starting to normalize and I've been able to pay off debt accrued after my career interruption. Now with my worsening prognosis, I have slipped back into the anxiety and fear of wondering what happens next and my wife and I talk about
it almost daily.
Others in this thread have provided great wisdom. You willingness to post about
your health and fears has helped me again put in perspective my life today. With both my Maker's and wife's help, healthcare professionals and sheer determination I have managed to make it thus far and learned to better put things in perspective. Like Andrew said above, you will very likely live a long time. Your may experience hardship and life will most certainly change to some extent - - even for the better in some ways. As Richard E. Simmons writes about
in his book The True Measure of a Man, "we will learn to see hardship. . . as a true blessing in the development of our lives and our relationships with others."