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Posted 4/16/2023 7:42 PM (GMT 0)
He has run a hard race.
Diagnosed Sept 2015. A prostatectomy reveled Tb3N1, Gleason 9. He has endured Lupron, Erleada, Zytiga, Xtandi, radiation 3 times, 5 different chemos including Pluvicto.
Now it is time to rest.
Sat April 8 he signed up for in-home hospice.
No more hospitals, clinic visits, trips out of town to Drs, or ambulance rides. If he wants oatmeal raisin cookies or lemon meringue pie for breakfast, bring them on! Steaks, chicken gizzards, broasted chicken, grilled hamburgers, let him eat meat! If he wants Coke instead of Gatorade or water, serve it up!
Ourtime has now become his time. While he is feeling good (as good as he can) we will have Wednesdays as his day out. He will enjoy watching the earth turn green again, the flowers starting to bloom and listen to rain drops tap on the windows as thunder rumbles in the distance. He will watch the birds eat at our bird feeders and listen as they sing their cheery songs. He is looking forward to the orioles. He wants to sit on the patio and watch the neighborhood come to life after a long winter. I will try my best to make his wishes come true.
His name is Jim and I have been lucky to call him my husband.
Posted 4/16/2023 7:46 PM (GMT 0)
What a very peaceful way to leave the people we love. Thinking of both of you and your family during this time.
Michael
Posted 4/16/2023 7:57 PM (GMT 0)
God bless you both. Something to be said to live your final days on your own terms, savoring life.
Posted 4/16/2023 8:03 PM (GMT 0)
There is peace and acceptance, woven into every word you wrote.

We all need to pause, and watch for spring's arrival, and watch the trees leaf out, the flowers emerge, and the birds sing.

Here, birdwatchers set out grape jelly and sliced orange sections for the orioles.

May you both be granted serenity, peace, and special moments in the days ahead ...

With caring thoughts sent to you both ~

CYCLONE ~ # Iowa State University
Posted 4/16/2023 9:22 PM (GMT 0)
Hospice was a godsend for my father this past winter, and I hope it will be for Jim. All that effort to paddle against the stream while the current kept getting stronger…when he accepted hospice he basically turned the boat around, put the paddle down, cracked a beer, and watched the critters in the water and shore while bobbing down the creek, relaxed.
Posted 4/16/2023 11:15 PM (GMT 0)
Very well said.
I hope that Jim's final days will indeed be peaceful.
Posted 4/17/2023 4:08 AM (GMT 0)
God Bless You and your Jim


Jimlion
Posted 4/17/2023 6:59 AM (GMT 0)
A very personal decision. At that juncture in life all decisions are worthy of our deepest respect. Some will bypass the dilemma with a quick and unexpected exit. But most of us will be faced with the same decision someday. I believe Jim made a very wise, rational and praiseworthy choice. All my best to him and his family.
Posted 4/17/2023 10:40 PM (GMT 0)
Beautifully said. May you both find peace in each day. Blessings to you and Jim.
Posted 4/18/2023 2:11 AM (GMT 0)
a lovely tribute to your husband, and your marraige. May he enjoy each day and squeeze every ounce of joy out of life as he can
Posted 4/18/2023 11:54 AM (GMT 0)
May God bless you and Jim and make every day you have together remarkable.
Posted 4/18/2023 1:16 PM (GMT 0)
God bless Jim.
Hoping he gets joy and peace in all he does.
My brother was in hospice and I'd travel up to see him often. He let me know how important that was so just be there for him.
God bless you

Glen
Posted 4/18/2023 1:41 PM (GMT 0)
The country western song “Live Like You Were Dying” comes to mind…and we all should. God bless you both.
Posted 4/18/2023 2:44 PM (GMT 0)
Poignant and beautifully written. God bless you, Jim and your family. I hope when my time has come I can exit with such grace.

Jim
Posted 4/18/2023 11:14 PM (GMT 0)
God Bless Jim, you and your family.
Posted 4/20/2023 2:06 PM (GMT 0)
Thank you for sharing your poignant post. My thoughts are with you, Jim and your family.
Posted 4/20/2023 9:38 PM (GMT 0)
My thoughts and prayers are also with you and your family. 🙏
Posted 4/21/2023 4:39 AM (GMT 0)
Home hospice is one of the most challenging life decisions a spouse can take on. God bless you for stepping up, I hope you have a strong support network and reach out for grief counseling when the walls are too close. I went through it alone with my wife, she battled breast cancer for 9 years. As a couple it’s difficult to stop fighting and embrace acceptance. Once done everything falls away. You have to do things and make decisions that no one is prepared for. You both are lucky to have found each other and shared this life.
Posted 4/21/2023 2:46 PM (GMT 0)
YOU'LL LEAVE THIS WORLD

You'll leave this world but not my heart,
After we've said goodbye.

You'll fly to heaven's so sweet land,
Leaving me here to sigh.

Yes, I shall grieve and you shall know
The sorrow that I feel.

To miss your touch, your warm embrace,
To comfort my ordeal.

But know as well, the day shall come,
I'll shed this mortal core.

To leave this world, to join your heart,
And leave you nevermore.

--Author unknown
Posted 4/21/2023 4:01 PM (GMT 0)
our time, yes it is you and your husband’s time to hold each other and remember the great times you had and are having. Each day we wake up and see the light of day is a blessing. He has picked what he likes best, waking up to you and his past time of watching Spring happen. Hold him in your heart now and forever.
My wish is that you both have many more memories to come. We are here for you now and in the future if you need a shoulder.
My blessings to you and your husband,
Jack
Posted 4/23/2023 6:33 PM (GMT 0)
God is with Jim and He is with you to give you strength and love as Jim moves closer to Him.

My prayers are with Jim, you and your family and friends.

Ron (Boomer)
Posted 4/23/2023 7:43 PM (GMT 0)
God Bless you both. We are all facing the final countdown, some just recognize it sooner.
Posted 4/23/2023 9:42 PM (GMT 0)
May God bring peace and comfort to you both in these days which lie ahead. Only He knows how many days each of us have from birth. May Jim's remaining days be filled with the joy and gladness you have shared together. For me and my precious wife, we have the assurance that this is not the end, just a time away from each other and the cares of this world. Blessings to you both.
Posted 4/23/2023 11:25 PM (GMT 0)
Wishing you and Jim peaceful and loving days ahead. I trust that Hospice will provide you both with the comfort and quiet that you will need. My mother chose Hospice care after battling colon cancer for 10 terrible months. I took leave from my job to be with her and my dad during those days, and I am forever grateful we chose that route. I held her hand whenever I was there and spoke with her as she rested and slowly slipped away. We were all at peace, and I wish you and Jim the same.
Posted 4/24/2023 2:31 PM (GMT 0)
May you be filled with peace! May your heart be full of love! May you find Joy in all of the moments! Our collective love to you and your family. God Bless
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