rob's 3rd chemo and his eye sight

Hi everyone: Thank you everyone so much for your answers and posts to my last post. When i'm feeling like i can't do this anymore, i read your posts to me and it helps me pick up my socks, get a grip and fight on. You truly are an amazing group of people and without you i know i wouldn't make it through this, so from the bottom of my heart THANK YOU. Rob had his 3rd round of chemo with no problems, but last week he started having trouble focusing. Everything seems foggy and he can't seem to focus on one thing without it becoming foggy in his head. I don't know if i'm explaining this right but here's an example.  Yesterday we had to go and get brake lines for my car. When the guy asked him questions about it he had trouble absorbing what he said and he seemed in a fog and a bit mixed up.  I have a call into the dr. Does anyone know if this is normal when on chemo and will it go away? It's driving him crazy. His right hand is still not better, but his left hand shows very small signs of improvement. It's almost as if his right hand has gone back to where it was (no strength) where i thought i felt a difference. Guess i was dreaming. One more week and it will be 4 wks. since radiation. Sure hope they are right about this working otherwise i guess that's it for his hands. I don't know how he will react if he has to live with his hands this way. He is really getting down and i am pushing for him to try antidepressants. We are supposed to have our son and grandson over tomorrow for brunch but the mood he is in now i'm not sure this is a good idea. All he does is sit in his chair and stare ahead. No matter what i try to say nothing is helping. On a positive note his psa has dropped to 330 from 700 after only 2 chemo seesions. YEAH!!! Hope this continues. Don't know how long his chemo will continue but initially it was supposed to be 4, now due to having low doses maybe more. I'm off to a counsellor today to try and get help for myself. This is hard for me because i'm used to dealing with things myself but with much pressure from my youngest daughter, ill try.  Anyway, thanks again for all your support and if anyone has any ideas about the cloudiness i would appreciate ideas.  Hope eveyone is doing well. my strength truly does come from you guys. Lifeline

Lifeline,

I'm with Jim - getting help for yourself is good - this is extremely difficult for you to deal with. Sometimes we just can't do it on our own and that's what counselors do for a living! I remember the first time I went to see my internist after Don's surgery I sat there and cried...I took her aback but only for a second...she patiently waited and then we talked. It was so good for me to talk to her. I always be grateful she handled me so kindly. So, this is a good thing for you.

Then I would print out Jim's response for Rob to read. There is help and now is the time to get it.

Bless you both,
Susan