My husband feels the same way, Montee. Don's cancer is aggressive and his concern is real.
We want our sons to be vigilant without driving them crazy, you know? Both (37 & 42) got their exams & PSA's immediately and swear it will be an annual event. Their doctors agree.
I know it doesn't feel good to have this worry for someone you love, it's an "emotional side effect" of this terrible disease.
I wish you well,
Susan