Welcome Shubal- first post- question on correcting incontinence

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Welcome, glad to have you on the healing side of the curve. You are still pretty close to surgery, so you may be expecting too much. Are you dry at night? How many pads a day do you use?

The standard for working on incontinence around here is walk, walk, walk --- kegel, kegel, kegel (if you need help with kegels there is good advice in the permanent links at the top of the topics) ALso remember that every person is different. Some go dry very fast, others go on for many months. In fact you will notice quite a bit of pee-related humor on this board -- laughing is better than brooding

It took me a good 3 months of frustratingly little control, using pullups and filling them up when I stood up initially. Being at work was a real hassle, changing pullups and then pads all the time. However, things did get better. It can take patience. Kegels help, but as much harping as I got about it from my doctor, I am convinced some of it was just time. I was frustrated because I had heard that some that had the surgery had just about no incontinence, and I had so much trouble initially. My point is that how you end up may not be very dependent on how you do initially. Hang in there, Schubal.

In having to deal with pads at work, I acquired an appreciation for what women have to deal with month in and month out a better part of their lives!