dAVID:
You handle these adverse situations so much better than I do.
I am still struggling with SRT and I am a minor basket case.
YOU have a great sense of calmness. You are correct that our messages reflect our own fears.
That being said, let me add that you also have a great BRAIN. You need to handle this well in that area, too, as well as you seem to be doing emotionally.
Be SMART. You are getting some good advice from the collective wisdom of this group. The messages reflect more than our own fears. I hope you will finally act on it.
Yes, I know it is your psyche and your decision.
Please don't consider this response out of line. I consider you a wonderful friend and hope you make a move on this sooner, rather than later.
Mel