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Posted 4/3/2012 12:50 PM (GMT 0)
For the newbies and lurkers - the ignore button - is at upper right of the posters response - a "thumbs down" icon - press that and you will not be able to see that person's postings.
And if you decide to change it in the future, just go to your "edit profile" page and you can un-ignore them.
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We are all dealing with different levels and avenues of stress - including: diagnosis; stress incontinence; waiting for biopsy or PSA readings; choice of treatment; the treatment day ( or start of treatments)... and the confusing, rollercoaster and twilight zone of the stupid disease called prostate cancer.

We certainly do not need any more stress when reading HW postings.

This internet forum can be like an extended family and I have yet to meet anyone that gets along with ( let alone loves) EVERYONE in their family..... that is when "selected hearing" comes into play.

If someone ( one or more) tweaks you the wrong way, pulls your chain, or just plainly upsets you - use the ignore button.
Even if they are saying things of worth, often their approach, attitude or style, blocks or hinders the message.

Heck, I am sure to be on someone's ignore list here.

No malice is intended in this posting. I have found my visits to HW less stressful this way.

Hugs to one and all,
Bronson
Posted 4/3/2012 12:58 PM (GMT 0)
Growing thicker skin is a good idea too.

Taking matters into your own hands and trying to upset the person that upset you is a bad idea.
Posted 4/3/2012 1:16 PM (GMT 0)
... that is why I ignore them
Posted 4/3/2012 1:33 PM (GMT 0)
Bronson, you are one of the select few who won't be on anyone's ignore list.

While the world has more than its share of jerks, and HW is bound to attract a few of them, I figure the disproportionate number of in-your-face posters is simply a symptom of their stress level and they are more to be supported by a civil reply than ignored. But, if my own stress level ever brought me to the point that their stress was ruining my day I'd be whacking that ignore button like a mast rope clanging in a wind storm.

Pity so many people who have me on their ignore list won't see this latest gem.

Ah well .... their loss

Sheldon AKA Sleepless (the modest one)
Posted 4/3/2012 2:22 PM (GMT 0)
I don't know if I'm on anyone's ignore list, but no one is on mine.  A lot of threads wouldn't make sense if certain people were "ignored," and I really want to hear opinions from every segment of the HW community.

Having said that, although I don't ignore individual posters, I do tend to ignore some of the preachy, didactic, I'm-gonna-tell-you-how-you-should-live-your-life threads.  I can get authoritative advice on those issues from my medical professionals.

I prefer to read the threads from new posters, or from the folks who are having a problem and need a community shoulder to lean on, or those that inject a bit of humor to brighten the day. 

I've had my share of disagreements, but have tried to avoid those in recent months (a Lenten resolution).  It's just not worth it, and it really doesn't bring any sense of satisfaction, though I do think it's important that newcomers to the site occasionally see that current members don't all agree on topics such as overtreatment, overscreening, and so forth.

I think we also evolve as we participate here.  As an example, when Davidg first started posting, I disagreed with many things he had to say, just as I had problems with his comments about his particular surgeon.   As the months have rolled by, I now find myself understanding his point of view and I respect him for it.  We're a generation apart in some of our thinking, but so are my son and I.  I'm glad I didn't hit that "ignore" button.    

 

Posted 4/3/2012 4:44 PM (GMT 0)
It's important to read everyone's pov on items of interest, how ever maddening and preachy some might be. As much as I find some of the longer posts with the same message about diet and lifestyle annoying, there are often some excellent links in those preachy posts that are worth reading and interpreting on one's own.

What I find so interesting about the net is that people who would never start a fight in real life come out swinging on message boards. Laughable to me. Using the same restraint you'd use with a person you disagree on the street is always a good piece of advice. Preachy doesn't garner many friends in real life and probably fewer still in the cyberworld.
Posted 4/3/2012 8:39 PM (GMT 0)
Hey Bronson,

This is such a good and informative posting particularly for the newbies here,
well thought of and well said.

I am so impressed that I am now going to take you off my ignore list ! lol turn

Kev
Posted 4/4/2012 12:34 AM (GMT 0)
I know the "ignore" button is there, but I don't believe in censorship of any form, even self imposed censorship. After approaching nearly 4 years at HW, I am learning more and more over time, not to take the bait, when trouble appears.

There's at most, just a couple of names I would love to see go away, but they have the right to be here to, so I ignore mentally their remarks, or barbs when directed to me. Live and let live, is still a good motto.

There's no reason for any member to be overbearing, dogmatic, and rude in their postings. That is for the moderators to handle, and how to deal with those that cross the line.

david in sc
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