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Posted 12/29/2012 10:44 PM (GMT 0)
I had to put down my scottish terrier named Gus today and I have been crying since. He was my buddy for 12 years. He liked going outside with me in the backyard and doing man stuff. May Gus R.I.P.

Good night Gus!

Your loving Dad
Posted 12/29/2012 10:48 PM (GMT 0)
Sorry to hear about the loss of your "best" friend.

david
Posted 12/30/2012 12:03 AM (GMT 0)
Dave from MD,

My dog Henley became sick the same month I had PC surgery. We had to say goodbye to him 3 weeks after surgery. He was a big part of our family for 14 years. I can understand how you feel.

Gus, I' m sure, was a great dog, will be missed, but you' 'll remember him fondly.

Hang in there-.

Jerry from PA
Posted 12/30/2012 12:12 AM (GMT 0)
I did the same thing when my 15 1/2 year old sheltie passed away. We don't never had any children, but always had a pet dog which are our kids. I know how you feel and sorry for your lose.
Posted 12/30/2012 12:17 AM (GMT 0)
Condolences on your loss. Never easy to lose someone we love.

Hugs.

Andrew
Posted 12/30/2012 1:05 AM (GMT 0)
Dave,
I never say to someone "I know how you feel" because most likely you don't but I may come close. I had a cat named Tom (22 pound Main Coon) I had for 18 years. He died of kidney failure and I cried for days and still cry thinking about him more than a year later. He was my buddy. He sat with me while I watched TV, slept on my chest most of the night, met me at the door when I got home, and just loved me unconditionally. If I could give up two weeks of my life to spend two more weeks with him I would do it in a heartbeat.

My only consolation is Tom is no longer suffering. Try and remember all the good times you spent with Gus. Maybe he and Tom are chasing each other and having a good ole time. I would like to believe that.

RIP Gus and Tom!!!

David
Posted 12/30/2012 1:32 AM (GMT 0)
Eighteen months ago my Blossom, an English Springer Spaniel of 13 years went to heaven. Since then I have had my 25 pound Maine Coon, Spencer. Then, a couple of weeks ago my wife brought home a Boxer puppy named Poppy, and she is a delight. We have always hed pets and they are very important in our life.
Posted 12/30/2012 2:53 AM (GMT 0)
Dave,
I'm sorry for your loss. Gus was with you for a long time. That had to be tough decision.

I've got a secret for you... most of us would be crying too - with or without HT.
Jeff
Posted 12/30/2012 3:01 AM (GMT 0)
I'm so sorry for your loss......HT or not I would be crying as well. Lost my best buddy Mozart (black mini poodle) 2 years ago and I still cry for him. I've had many dogs over the years but my connection with him was a soulmate, thru a divorce and my prostate cancer, he never left my side. My next best friend Ziggy ( another black mini poodle) has an aggressive oral cancer and is in chemo as we speak...and I was just recently dx with rectal cancer ....I'm more afraid of losing her than what I'm facing. We love our animals so much....for me losing them is so very difficult...I've never had kids...except my doggies.Please hang in.

Terry

Posted 12/30/2012 4:40 PM (GMT 0)
Dave,

So sorry to hear about Gus! 12 years is a good run, but I'm sure you wish it could have been more. I hope you get to raise a toast to him on NYE.

We're four years past putting down a beloved Beagle and I cried like crazy after that and that was before my HT. (I can only imagine what it would be like now.) She underwent radiation for her cancer and here I am now facing the same thing. My goal is to be as good natured about it as she was.

Our salute to Gus and hang in there!

Michael
Posted 12/30/2012 6:51 PM (GMT 0)
I am so sorry for your loss- murphy's last morning was two months ago-our fifteen year old Corgi- I think this is price you pay when you love the so much-well I am crying now-great
Posted 12/31/2012 7:28 AM (GMT 0)
So sorry to hear about Gus. I still mourn the loss of my dog Babe, who lived 19 years, and has been gone for almost as long. She was an exceptional friend, and was a big part of my family. Friends would come over to visit her, not me! Great people on this board! Considerate and kind. So glad to have found you all. May 2013 be as sweet as all of you!

Susan
Posted 12/31/2012 4:37 PM (GMT 0)
That's sad, but you can get the exact same dog and call it Gus.

There a family in our neighborhood they had a dog called Shadow. It was a Border Collie. It died, so they got another one, same color. They also called it Shadow.

You can't tell the difference, the first one and the current one, they act the same. lol
Posted 12/31/2012 10:47 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Dave, I am new to the forum and to the Pca side of the world. I am not on hormones yet, but my dog Kate died in 2003 and I cried like a baby. One year later, we got another dog, who has been with us since. She is now nine. She and Kate are different, but I love them both the same. When the time is right, and you will know, there is another "Gus" out there waiting to be loved and cared for by you.

All the best,
Fred
Posted 1/2/2013 12:37 PM (GMT 0)
 

Thank you all for your kind words. This is a "GREAT" board!

Dave

Posted 1/2/2013 3:13 PM (GMT 0)
This thread brings back sad memories. Here is an essay I wrote a few years ago:

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Today we had to put our Miniature American Eskimo, Casey, to sleep. It’s just a sad sad sad day.

In 1991 our shelty, Swayzie, ran out in the street and got run over right in front of our elementary school daughter. That was her sweet dog and she cried steady for weeks and couldn’t even talk about Swayzie for about a year. In October, 1993, two years later, I finally got my daughter to visit our local kennel. By then she had recovered pretty well from that traumatic event and she was ready to consider getting another pet. We fell in love with Casey; a love affair that never ended. We waited anxiously for a week and when nobody claimed him, this flea-infested beautiful dog was ours. We quickly got him healthy and a bond was born. Casey became an integral part of our family. It was estimated that Casey was almost 2 years old when we got him. So, we had him for 14 years. With Casey’s help our daughter’s happiness was restored and she learned to love again. Our daughter left years ago to pursue a professional career, but she has returned home often and she and Casey greeted each other with mutual joy.

about a year ago, our dog’s personality changed. He no longer wanted to be petted and paced and paced. He would get lost in the back yard and even in the house. He barked rarely. He had trouble walking and would cry in pain when we petted him. He was diagnosed with canine cognitive dysfunction, a form of Alzheimer’s Disease in dogs. There is some pretty good medication that works 75% of the time. Sadly, Casey was in the other 25%. It got to where we had to watch him all the time as he had trouble distinguishing between our carpet and the back yard, if you know what I mean. He also became almost totally deaf and blind.

Over the last few months, my wife and I have looked carefully at the life this once vibrant, intelligent, loving dog was leading. Today, we finally got the courage to say goodbye to an old friend. I knew it would be tough. I just didn’t realize how tough. But...it was time.

And now, something even tougher, I have to go call my daughter.

　

Mel

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Posted 1/21/2013 10:25 PM (GMT 0)
Last night at the hospital my mother-in-law passed away from colon cancer at age 80. Here I go again crying like a baby. These past 3 weeks have not been kind to me and my family! The HT does not help in times like these but this is part of the life cycle. Anyway my mother-in-law and my mom and dad are now talking about the old times!

Sweet dreams..........
Posted 1/22/2013 12:18 AM (GMT 0)
sorry to hear about this latest sorrow in your life, you have been hit hard.

david
Posted 1/22/2013 3:02 AM (GMT 0)
Dave, all our thoughts are with you. Our condolences for your mother-in-law and our prayers especially for her children and family. Life causes a lot of pain and sorrow.....HT amplifies it. Since being diagnosed I have lost my father and mother, my first niece, and my wife has had a major fight with breast cancer...her second bout. The tears come very freely at very unexpected times. Some of this is the HT....some is the reality of our conditon and the consequences. We all have losses...hopefully it will help us be even closer to those who remain with us and strengthen our memories of those we have lost.

Jack
Posted 1/22/2013 5:06 AM (GMT 0)
Dave, so sorry to hear about another loss for you! This certainly is a rough pass for you now.

I lost my mom to colon cancer when she was 63. I remember when the doctor first told us that she would need hospice care, I cried so hard and so long. It was by far the biggest cry of my adult life. I can only imagine what those tears would be like now that I'm on HT.

All the best to you and your family at a difficult time.

Michael
Posted 1/22/2013 2:34 PM (GMT 0)
Dave:

Sorry to hear about you losses. Condolences to you and especially your wife. We had to have our Collie put down this last year, so I know how that feels. We had her cremated and she is on the living room shelf next to our two Cairns. The big girl is in the center.

I hope you feel better soon - it took me sevearl days. Hey, nothing wrong with crying, BTW. I almost did this weekend after reading an article by a local columist about the recent loss of his dog. They were very close and she was a comfort to him during his recuperation period after breaking a leg.

Want to cry a little more ? Then read this :

http://www.mlive.com/living/grand-rapids/index.ssf/2013/01/tom_rademacher_treat_your_pets.html
Posted 1/25/2013 10:12 PM (GMT 0)
Hey guys and gals--Been out of town--anyone who likes animals can't be all bad!!
Bill
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