Posted 4/30/2013 6:04 AM (GMT 0)
devasted, you bring up some good thoughts on the subject.
my oncologist is treatment-neutral in his approach, but he has said many times, that in his experience, RO's sling the most falsities of them all, even more so then surgeons. He sees surgical approaches as being very mechanical things, which they are in fact, and radiation approaches, especially in context of a salvage attempt, to be shots in the dark.
as we all know, radiation is very expensive treatments on very expensive machines, and my doctor and the infamous dr. "k" both remarked that RO's tend to p ush patients into SRT for monetary reasons, even when there's not clear evidence of recurrence, or with minimal recurrence which may never foster harm to the patients. and he said, that as soon as some men even think the cancer has come back (or in some cases fear of it coming back), they either talk themselves into SRT, or it makes it easy for the RO to do so. didn't sound real wholesome to my line of thinking, if there are doctors that really do this
I don't like the word cure in regards to any cancer, who can guarantee any patient that some stray cancer cells still aren't in the body? In the cases of PC, PNI alone makes that a real possibility, even before diagnosis. I suppose if you die of something other than the cancer, then you were cured, but still not alive obviously.
You have done what you feel is right for you, and for your family, and I applaud and respect that. Each of us has to make those choices in life with severe medical matters. I have made my own choices too since all of this began for me. In my case, since I have had the misfortune of having a long, painful journey from the start, aren't interested in sheer quantity of life, have enough severe QOL issues that already have hindered me, took me out of the work force, and struggling with extreme pain and fatigue. So there's not much incentive for me to what to go on and on trying to extend my life. In July, will be the 3 year mark for me dealing with the chronic pain, and its been quite enough for me. Every morning I wake up, it starts with pain, and ends with pain, despite meds. And no, I don't wish to be drugged to the point where I can't think straight or be functional, so even that's a trade off.
Not afraid of death or dying, we all have to go there one day, and in the mean time, I try to enjoy what I can enjoy with the limitations that are already in place in my life. It's kind of hard to live "each day to the fullest" attitude, if one is baring so much physical hurt. I'm a realist, I know what I can and can't do.
I hope you continue to find your balance in life as you continue your own journey, and hope and pray you never have to deal with some of the more negative aspects of our disease and cancer.
david