Posted 2/17/2015 3:39 PM (GMT 0)
Karen there is no reason to believe your Dad is in ANY imminent danger of death or for you to stop making plans for your own life. At 75 he can expect to live a long life and die from other than PCA. You say the rest of the family is there with him. Im sure he is asymptomatic, so needs the kind of care any healthy 75 y/o needs. You may or may not want to share what his general fitness level is,i.e, how long would you expect him to live naturally without this diagnosis? If into his 90's the possibility of that is real… real, real! As a 71 year old man, with 3 sons all over the world, I tell you honestly I personally would only want them taken from their dreams for a solid goodby on my "death"[life?} bed. Listen and discern what your Dad wants for YOU. Do not be guilted by other members of family{not saying you are,tho that can exist}. Your family is in South Africa for their own reasons. You are in Holland for your own. Only you know your relationship with your Dad and vice versa. You have stepped out on your own because of your independent spirit, your Dad would never want to muffle that. Any way, the previous advice will be moot as your Dad will live longer than he thinks or the rest of the family and most assuredly his doctors. One should never ask a doctor how long? Because, especially with Pca, they do NOT know, but will " have " to answer" and will throw out the last thing they read or heard. I offer not false hope here Karen, but faith, just the tiniest bit is need to realize and manifest that hope. BTW I just yesterday met a woman fro the Gym I go to, whose name is Karen, living here {Maui…knowledge/not fame}, born and raised in S Africa. She pronounces here name Kah ren like in car. Do you also? Aloha, Pono, Mana {google} Logo