Posted 3/5/2015 3:48 AM (GMT 0)
Well, it's hard to say because obviously we vary greatly in all aspects of PC recovery.
You say "Ever since my surgery I have found that I g to pee more often. I'm not sure if it's because I have to go more often or because mentally I don't want to take risk."
I definitely pee more often when I am up, but I don't know how much of it is that mental thing you mention of not wanting to take a chance. If I am mostly sitting, I can go an hour or 2 without really getting the urge to go. And finally, now, even when up I do pretty good except for one thing: those spasms I have mentioned before. I just never know when they are going to hit, and it's just like the muscles want to take over all by themselves and force some out. It might happen when I get up from a chair, about 30 seconds later. Or a mile into a 2 mile walk, or, not. I can always(so far) stop it ( remember I am 13 months out) until I get to a bathroom, but usually once it starts, it is going to repeat until I deal with it. But because of this, I routinely take any opportunity to go when I am up, before this spasm thing can happen. So, if I get up and it is convenient to do so, I am going to go. But do I have to? Probably not as long as I don't get a spasm. And I often catch myself these days- even when walking- not making any conscious effort to keep it in, unless a spasm, or a cough or sneeze or some unexpected stress happens. Then, I still must Kegel fast to prevent a leak.
But how does this compare to say 2 months out? Night and day! Back then, if I drove 30 minutes from the house to a restaurant, the first thing on my mind as I got out of the car was to find a bathroom fast. In retrospect I suppose this was in part the same spasms, because I suspect my Kegels have been pretty strong from the get go. But it took a lot of effort to fight back against those contractions, whatever was contracting then or now. But much worse then. So now I go more often than before if I am up, but at least some of that is probably preventive, or mental. Just think of all of the trauma to various nerves and muscles and the bladder and the urethral scar that must heal. One or more of these things could take months or more to heal.
You say "But I do know that at nightthings have changed. I used to get up but now I am up one time at least during the night.
Does this ever get back to normal? I am eight weeks outbut now things would have settled in. The reason I'm asking the question is that much to my surprise, last night I slept 6 1/2 hours that week, and I'm wondering if this is a one off or if it's progress.I will say that when I woke up my bladder felt like it was about to burst"
How often are you up on average? And did you mean that last night you slept 6.5 hour last night, waking up with a bladder about to burst? Well, that sounds pretty good to me. At 8 weeks out for me, not a dang thing was back to normal, nor at 12 weeks. Except I have been dry at night almost from the beginning, so we vary, don't we? It was normal for me to be up several times a night before surgery. Now, there are some nights where I am up a couple of times to pee a lot. But most nights I can easily sleep for 8 hours without getting up. I could go longer if I was not awakened for other reasons. So, who knows what inside you has not healed that is causing you to get up more often? But my guess is that it will get better, in a couple of weeks or 6 months, hard to say.
I suspect that you started gang busters, doing much better than average seemed to me. And because of that, it may worry you when you have some set backs or realize you are not 100% yet. But to be completely normal in just a month or two would probably put you in a pretty small group. If some things take months, seems to me that would be pretty normal. A very lucky few really are good to go almost immediately, but I suspect for every one of them there are 2 or 10 who take quite a while, but still get there. Hang in there, Bro!