Why some men reject a cure for ED

I would say this to anyone considering implant. If you have a partner who might find themselves annoyed with your new found abilities, or you don't plan on having an active sex life, in my opinion, and this is only my opinion, I wouldn't go with implant surgery.

I don't know how others with implants feel, but solo pleasure with an implant is not appealing or pleasurable activity to me. You have rods inserted on both sides of your penis and when they are inflated, or deflated for that matter, solo activity isn't as pleasurable to me post implant. In fact I think solo activities felt better with a non erect organ than with inflated rods. Based on my experience I would not have an implant for the purpose of self entertainment.

I also believe if a man has his abilities restored only to find their partner isn't interested, there would be what I'd find to be an irrestible temptation to try out my new found abilities with another woman who would be interested & appreciative. Giving in to that temptation would result in the end of my 34 year marriage. So there could be unintended consequences of having an implant with a partner no longer interested in sex.

I was certain my wife was in favor of this surgery and was on board with getting a lot of use from this surgery. Carrying around a pump in your scrotum is at times uncomfortable. Having rods inserted in your penis makes you larger in the non erect state. I can't imagine living with these realities without the benefit and pleasure of frequent use.

Post Edited (RickRed40) : 3/24/2015 7:07:47 AM (GMT-6)

Earlier in the thread, RickRed said, "I hope everyone everyone with prostate cancer can agree with this:
Everyone must find their own way and make their own life choices how to respond to the consequences of their chosen prostate cancer treatment."

I fully agree with this statement. And it's great that penile implants are available as an option for those who want them. And maybe PTSD, or something akin to it, prevents some men from availing themselves of this procedure. I personally think "a few men" would be more correct than "some men," but so be it.

I can assure you, though, that my personal lack of interest in this "remedy" has nothing to do with PTSD. My urologist has mentioned it as an option, my wife and I have talked about it, and there is no PTSD involved in our shared decision that a penile implant is something in which neither of us has any interest.

I suppose it may be true that one reason some men don't choose this remedy is, indeed, a fear of further surgery, and if some psychologist wants to call that PTSD, who am I to argue? But, in all honesty, I (and I'm pretty sure many other men) fear any kind of surgery, whether it's a root canal or a knee replacement, and that has nothing to do with PTSD. I think it's simply a normal desire to avoid surgery. So, "some men" is probably a fair statement. But equally fair would be a statement such as "Most men simply have no interest in having an artificial device implanted in their penis." A lot of guys don't even want to stick a needle in their penis, and I don't think PTSD has anything to do with that. And, if injections with a tiny needle are a turn-off, how much more so the thought of an implant?

But, again, it's amazing that this technology is available, and to those men and their sex partners who choose to avail themselves of it, I say "Good for you."

Post Edited (clocknut) : 3/24/2015 8:26:10 AM (GMT-6)

Rudy,
Thanks for your service.
In regards to ED after radical prostatectomy and creativity with different types of sexual stimulation and satisfaction, I would like to say that for certain couples sex means and is only with penetration and only way of engaging in sexual activities. My wife and I belong to this group of couples. With that in mind, do many couples have to stop enjoying sex for ever because husbands are 100% impotent?
Any way of getting erections back to penetration level is acceptable and totaly depends on an individual or couples decision.
I was never this long without sex in my life since I became sexually active, and no one knows how long it will take to regain erections if at all. And don't get me wrong, I have only sex with one women for Padt 30 years.
This is very sensitive topic and intention is not to make anyone mad and angry.
MK

JackH,
Did not look at date when it was posted.
Anyway, good, someone sew it.
My bad.