Worrykid said...
ADT has pretty much killed his sex drive and now he's worried he's never getting it back. Not that I wanted to know but his 3-4 times a week has turned into 3 times in 3 months and he's pretty broken about it. I told him 3-4 times a week is abnormal anyway and he should lay off the little blue pill, mom probably appreciates the break. He didn't think I was funny.
A lot of men's masculinity and identity as a man... is tied to their ability to perform. That part's not usual. It's normal. A man's self-image takes a hit.
Telling him he's not alone may do more good. That acknowledges that his concerns are real....we all need acknowledgement, acceptance and empathy. Three times a week may sound abnormal to you or others...but....it's not for him.
He's also feeling like damaged goods....just in the needing of the treatment. But it's a medical procedure....not a reflection on his worth. It takes courage to do what he's doing. One man's take.
Good luck
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