Maybe it's time for a little recommended reading.
The article linked below is one of many, many on the web that offer tips on how to put out flames that are starting to crackle, blaze, and eat up a forum.
Gosh, that sure seems to be a common problem these days.
None of you have to read it, of course, but maybe it would be a help if some of you did? Just a thought. It's short, but seems to be much to the point. In eight easy steps.
Quite honestly, in the years I've been here, I have been genuinely surprised that there haven't been even more dust-ups, and ones even more brutal, than what's been going on now.
It would be absolutely understandable if that were the case. We here, and that means all of us at one point or another, deal with a state of anxiety and even fear for at least some of the time.
For heaven's sake, we've been told we have a potentially live-threatening disease, and even if the odds are that we finally do die of something else, that fear is consistently a dark shadow in the room! Fear be darned. Listen, people, if you have the guts not only to face this PCa beast daily, but then to come here to this forum, and discuss and share and learn, and do so coolly and calmly for 99% of the time, then you are no slaves of fear!
But occasionally when that fear does spill out a bit, it may express itself as forum anger. When that happens, the best way to deal with it is to recognize it, and get the leash back on it. Yes, it will eventually slip the leash again, but when it does we just grab it by the neck and slip the leash back on it. We can do that because we are stronger than it is.
If anyone is contemplating leaving this forum because they honestly feel they have done what they can here, and gotten out of it what they can, then our thanks to them for the time they have spent with us, and godspeed.
But if they are contemplating leaving because of frustration, because of anger at a word said or a slight perceived, then let us please invite them to reconsider, and get them to genuinely believe, as the rest of us genuinely feel, that we are truly a much stronger forum with them than without them.
And another thought for them and for the rest of us: cooling off helps. There ought to be a rule on this forum: that if you make the decision to leave, you can't really go until a week into the future. At which time you will be required to reconsider if you really do want to go.
And one final thought/recommendation. FWIW, if I have been hit in the face with mashed potatoes, as happened here recently, my own feeling is not to hurl a taco back. It doesn't help the situation, and only makes the table and floor a mess.
Hey, read this. (Why not?)
/www.wikihow.com/Escape-a-Flame-War