Runner here, but no stories like yours, sorry.
Have dropped to ~45 miles/week running, hiking, walking through the forests with my lovely lady Labrador. That is down from my usual 50 miles/week running. Continent, no pads since 3 & 1/2 months after RARP. Since I go solo or with wife I just pull over and pee as necessary. I do not do group stuff, marathons or formal meets. I avoid any kind of crowds at all times. When camping or long distance driving I bring along my trusty portable male urinal.
I do have some minor stress incontinence, nothing much though. I hang with a local club of young distance runners, both male and female. They do the same as I do - if somebody has to pee, they pull over and do that, regardless of sex.
There are some other runners here though.