I am a 33 year old guy...have had UC for almost 14 years. I feel that the disease causes a social anxiety that worsens with time. I have taken them all - xanax, lorazepam (ativan), and anti depressants - paxil, effexor, effexor xr, and zoloft... For some time my wife and I were trying to get pregnant so I got off all of them...well, our attempts were successful, so I am getting back on things. I am taking ativan for anxiety, and am going to get back on an anti-depressant for a more long-term solution.
Honestly I feel these things help part of the puzzle...they help put a break in the cycle in some people and the disease is less likely to cause its own anxiety. Paxil, effexor, and ativan have all helped me. Paxil was a bit harsh - i.e. I lost all urgencies to accomplish things - like paying the bills...didnt work out so well but it did help me feel more calm. Effexor was effective (no pun intended) as well, and didnt make me into a zombie as much. Ativan is a great quick fix, helps me sleep, but can be addictive....
I am also probably going to now head down the road of Remicade. Ever since my brain surgery (looong story), and my dog dieing (saaad story), I have had a wicked flare that will not stop even with pred....