I will have him join when I think it is time.
Right now, he still has not eaten and we are waiting for the word to start food.
He feels fine and has never complaint of pain. The doctor is not callous but honest.
My son is also the same as you-he has been healthy all his life, he is an athlete and can't wait to get back on the soccer field.
We will deal with the realities of this once he is back on food.