Hello Kalynn,
While I believe that UC is a verry terrible disease to have it is not the end of the world for most of us, in fact it's made us stronger people. I'm very sorry to hear about your father...but for the majority of us it is the treatments themselves that give us the double whammy. I know the majority of the members have been on autoimmune supressing drugs (myself included) for various amounts of time, that in turn can lead to what my doctor calls "infections of oppurtunity". Sometimes it's as simple as a common cold, others with already weak immune systems it can lead to nasty infections and other life threatening conditions. If I could tell others one things it is that sometimes the side effects from the treatment can be just as bad as UC.