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Posted 10/11/2009 9:46 PM (GMT 0)
you would have to know the guy to believe this could actually come out of a persons mouth, but it did. a co worker said to a friend of mine, "the only reason he has that disease(UC) is because he's from england and those people have been inbreeding for years, they got bad genes" can you believe it, i should'nt get upset because its so ridiculas, but come on, really!! think i should report him??
Posted 10/11/2009 10:11 PM (GMT 0)
You're right that it's such a ridiculous thing to say that it's not even worth getting upset over...instead just focus your energy on getting better as there's always going to be someone out there with something stupid to say.
Posted 10/11/2009 10:21 PM (GMT 0)
That's horrible. I would report it. I wouldn't want to work in an environment where people speak about eachother in that way. It is unhealthy and inappropriate.
Posted 10/11/2009 10:28 PM (GMT 0)
That's horrible.

Then again, I went to the ER in a minor flare before I was diagnosed, and was subject to some pretty nasty words from the triage nurse, including:

1) How I shouldn't be in the ER for a tummyache, and if it was bothering me I should contact my GP (who was 45 minutes away at that point, and I had bad experiences with the school practitioners)

2) How there were kids with cancer dying in the hospital, and I did not have it as bad as them

3) How I wasn't sick all the time (that year I had had a flare that they thought was c. dif colitis, a few minor flares, and pelvic inflammatory disease and a few fevers)

4) How it was just my period

5) She starting asking me why I wanted a diagnosis (so that they can actually do something for me you stupid witch) and basically told me that I had Munchausen's

So yeah, bottom line, people can be ******s.
Posted 10/12/2009 12:36 AM (GMT 0)
What ignorance!!!!! I'd report him. That discrimination against the disabled!
I have absolutely no British blood in me. In fact, I'm pretty much 3/4 Swedish and I have this stupid disease! Explain that one you jerk!
Posted 10/12/2009 1:19 AM (GMT 0)
Glad I'm only 1/4 English ... I can't imagine how bad I'd be if I was carrying double the number of inbred genes.
Posted 10/12/2009 1:20 AM (GMT 0)
     That was an ignorant remark.  I am an American but my dad's family did come from England in 1660..lol.  Sorry to say though....my dad had diverticulitis and his mother died from cancer of the rectum...so, unfortunately, I inherited his genes shakehead .  It does seem like a lot of English people have this disease and I KNOW they don't inner breed..lol.  Well, maybe the "bluebloods" did.  But we all know that isn't the cause of UC.  And, no, I wouldn't report him.
Posted 10/12/2009 1:29 AM (GMT 0)
I'm complete Hungarian descent, both my parents and all other relatives were born in Hungary, only thing that makes me Canadian is being born here. No English descent on my side. That co-worker hasn't a clue what he's talking about, I have no idea if reporting him would change anything or not, go with your gut.


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Posted 10/12/2009 1:36 AM (GMT 0)
britinusa

I agree that was a very ignorant comment but it was only heresay and reporting it may not do you any good.  Also I am a believer in choosing my battles carefully.

"The art of being wise is knowing what to overlook."
William James

 

I wish you peace,

Kitt


Posted 10/12/2009 1:53 AM (GMT 0)
pb4....'go with your gut' may not be the best advice for someone with UC!

...and I agree that it's better to choose your battles...
Posted 10/12/2009 2:20 AM (GMT 0)
Another reason why, in my view, it's better not to tell or discuss it with anyone, especially at work.
Posted 10/12/2009 2:25 AM (GMT 0)
What he said was incredibly stupid as well as being incorrect. However, consider that reporting would focus attention on his boorishness, but it would also focus attention on your condition. If this is not something you want, then you'd probably best let it slide and just remember to avoid him.
Posted 10/12/2009 5:48 AM (GMT 0)
LOL Rio, I always say...."my guts are definitely messed up but my gut instinct never steers me wrong."


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Posted 10/12/2009 9:39 AM (GMT 0)
well i live in England but im 1/2 American and 1/2 English, and that in English language is total bollocks. actually i was looking up the statistics on ibd and it is higher in the US. 1 in 300 people in the US get ibd compared to 1 in 600 in the Uk. It is higher in the European and American cultures than places like the middle east. It has also not been genetically proven. No one in my family has ibd. I was just unlucky really. Our best foods also come from aborad as well. America does do great pancakes but India has the best curries. I used to eat a lot of Indian food. In India they also eat a lot of natual fruits. My flat mate who is from shelankia (cant spell that) does the most wonderful curries, and has taught me how to cook more naturally with out using things from a tin. His food tastes so much better than my tined pastas I used to make really. tell your collegeue that he is full of bollocks and hes an arsehole. he doesnt know what he is talking about .
Posted 10/12/2009 12:47 PM (GMT 0)
First off, why would your friend tell you that, what was your friend trying to accomplish? It in no way was any help to you and has now upset you. Sometimes, what you don't know won't hurt you.

Reporting something you didn't hear yourself doesn't really hold too much weight so I would ignore it and focus on what you are at work to do. If you can get a pamphlet on UC, perhaps you can discretely leave it on your co workers desk. If he reads it, then great, if not, well you can't control people so you did your best.
Posted 10/12/2009 1:19 PM (GMT 0)
I personally wouldn't make a fuss about it- there are a lot of ignorant people out there! I'm in the "need to know basis" camp...I think a handful of my co-workers know what's actually wrong with me, & I work in a doctor's office where there's plenty of knowledge.  
Posted 10/12/2009 1:33 PM (GMT 0)
If you were shocked that those words came out of that person's mouth, then maybe you need to approach him first before reporting it to management. Maybe he spoke without thinking. Those words are hurtful, judgemental, and ignorant, but.... maybe he wasn't thinking. I like to resolve things before taking it to management. I think management is the last resort.
Posted 10/12/2009 1:46 PM (GMT 0)
yea i would approach him. i would ask him about what he said so that you can hear it from him. that way its not word of mounth. he may deny it but let him know that if someone did say that then they are the ones with the problems. besides any one who says that is a total and utter prat
Posted 10/12/2009 1:48 PM (GMT 0)
If you are still feeling upset by what you think he said, approach him first before you get management involved, because there isn't much management can do if he didn't say it directly to you. People say the darndest things; trust me I've had many difficult times in my life and it's amazing the things that can come out of people's mouths. Over twenty years ago I was in the midst of a very tragic situation, and a woman came out of the bathroom stall next to me and said something really off the wall...and I still giggle and shake my head about it to this day because I couldn't believe anyone would ask such a question. The only thing I can say is that it has made me more sensitive to others feelings and able to shake off the insensitive folks out there.  

Posted 10/12/2009 2:01 PM (GMT 0)
If you approach him, he might get embarrassed that you called him on it. Then hopefully he won't do it again.
Posted 10/12/2009 2:28 PM (GMT 0)
also i forgot to put that management doesnt really like people who can not solve their own problmes. they get annoyed with things like that. they see it as a kind of weekness and they also just think oh she gave me more to do, yea management really hate hearing that someone said this and i feel that. even if it is their job to listen, so defintaly approach him on your own,
Posted 10/13/2009 12:09 AM (GMT 0)
i did'nt report him, i now find it funny how pathetic it really sounds, i did confront him and he made no apology for what he said, but that is alright, because i am already making his life miserable by hitting him where it hurts. indirectly of course, nothing illegal or immoral, just making some smart decisions at work, childish?? maybe a little, but he doesn't even see it coming, i feel so much better..
Posted 10/13/2009 12:12 AM (GMT 0)
Glad to hear that u r feeling better about the situation.
Posted 10/13/2009 5:24 AM (GMT 0)
Hi...saying things are different than doing things....

Be careful about what YOU do. Vengence can allow you to set yourself up without even realising it... Please don't tell your friend what you did...she'll share possibly.

He does sound pathetic...

quincy
Posted 10/13/2009 5:27 AM (GMT 0)
Number one rule...what goes around comes around and often in most cases you don't even have to lift a finger, karmas a beach LOL! IBD can hit just about anyone, would never wish this horrid disease on a single soul but like I said, you never know what karma has planned.


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