I was diagnosed with pancolitis in January 2009. My symptoms started in November 2008, a few weeks after giving birth to my son (who will be ONE on Tuesday!). I started on Asacol immediately after diagnosis and mesalamine enemas a week after (my doc wanted to see how I'd do on Asacol alone, I suppose). I was getting really close to remission on those two drugs alone, but then I caught a tummy bug from my son, which threw me back into the flare. My doc started me on 40mg of prednisone in mid-March. I did a fairly quick course...I would have been able to get completely off sooner than I did, but I had a big interview coming up, and my doc thought it would be best if I stayed on it until the interview was over (just in case), so I was on 10mg every other day for quite a while. I got off pred in early May, and I've been in remission ever since. No blips or anything! I think my doc is a bit surprised.
I switched from Asacol to Apriso (for convenience, as Apriso is only taken once per day) and have tapered the enemas from nightly to twice weekly.
I dealt with my diagnosis in a very similar fashion as you....lots and lots and lots of research. However, it made me feel better, honestly. I know that even if I have to have surgery, it's very likely going to be ok and I'll go on to live a normal life. I take a lot of comfort in that thought!
just editing to add that remission for me is 1-2 BM's a day, unless I eat a lot of super-high fiber foods (like the day I OD'ed on grape tomatoes, sweet corn, and raspberries), and then I'll have a bit more poos in a day than that. But, that's a normal response, I think, and doesn't really have anything to do with my UC.