Killcollits-you can always have your daughter set up for a jpouch, go ahead and do the first step and then just leave the second step until she is older to decide.
That is what i had decided to do. i am the kind of person who doesnt see the glass empty or full i just see that i am fixing to knock it over, so i plan for all the bad stuff in the world, lol.
anyway, i had heard of remi as a bridge to surgery too,and alot of people do that,because it is better to have it healthy, or to have it when you are younger, because you will heal better.
If you decide to go that route or want more input, look for shaz like i suggested earlier, she can tell you alot more about being a child with a bag and her experince. she hangs out on the ostomy board, and im sure she wouldnt mind talkign to you, im volunteering her anyway,lol.