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Posted 6/15/2010 7:49 PM (GMT 0)
Very rough night last night.  I lost the baby at 17wks.  Felt fine all day just can't figure it out.  Can't help but blame myself for all these terrible meds and this aweful disease.   Not sure I will ever emotionally recover from this.  Not to mention what it will do to this flare.
Posted 6/15/2010 7:55 PM (GMT 0)
Sorry to hear of your loss. Please don't blame yourself. These things just happen. I lost a baby at 13 weeks so I know exactly how you feel right now. It is hard but try and pick yourself up and work through all of your emotions as you will have some crazy ups and downs. Take care of yourself...Sending you HUGS!
Posted 6/15/2010 7:55 PM (GMT 0)
I'm so, so sorry. :o(
Posted 6/15/2010 8:01 PM (GMT 0)
Oh, Boxermom, I am soooo sorry!
Blaming ourselves is what we do best - but it was not your fault.
Allow yourself the right to grieve - this is a horribly hard thing you're going through.
Please take care of yourself as best you can.....
You're in my thoughts.
Posted 6/15/2010 8:02 PM (GMT 0)
I'm so sorry you have to deal with the pain of losing a pregnancy, I have been there.  But please don't blame yourself for having this disease!  It is not your fault!

Try to take care of yourself and make a full recovery.  If you need to talk to someone find a good friend or family member or a therapist.  Take care of you.

Thoughts and hugs to you.

Posted 6/15/2010 8:05 PM (GMT 0)
     Boxermom...I am sooo sorry to hear of your loss.  I miscarried two babies and know what you are going through....it is a rough time and you are in my prayers.  However, please, please do NOT blame yourself.  It is not your fault you have this disease.
Posted 6/15/2010 8:11 PM (GMT 0)
Sorry to hear that Boxermom. These things happen. Please don't blame yourself.
Posted 6/15/2010 8:15 PM (GMT 0)
I cannot imagine how you feel right now and I'm truly sorry. One thing, it is not your fault. Nothing of this is your fault.

And while the subject often is very taboo to talk about the occurrence is not that rare, even for women that does not have this terrible disease. So don't blame yourself.
Posted 6/15/2010 8:18 PM (GMT 0)
Oh I am so sorry for your loss!

Please do NOT blame yourself. Miscarriages unfortunately happen all the time for many reasons; it is a sad part of the nature of reproduction.
Posted 6/15/2010 8:18 PM (GMT 0)
I am so incredibly sorry for your loss.  You and your family will be in my prayers.  I had three losses prior to having my son; the pain never really goes away.  Nothing you did caused this, please know that.

This message board was very helpful for me; sometimes the only person who really understands is someone else who's going through what you are.  I encourage you to check it out, and know you're not alone.  I have made a lot of friends through here.

http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/4236699/ShowForum.aspx

 

Posted 6/15/2010 8:38 PM (GMT 0)
I'm so sorry to hear this. But I agree, don't blame yourself! I've known many women that have had miscarriages and they were perfectly healthy. I know it's hard now so please just take one day at a time.
Posted 6/15/2010 9:09 PM (GMT 0)
So sorry to hear about your loss, Boxermom, especially since you were so far along. I was devastated when I miscarried after I came down with my first flare five years ago. I'll never know for sure what caused mine and neither will you so don't blame yourself. After I lost my baby everyone came out of the woodwork telling me how they had miscarried too. Unfortunately, they are not that uncommon. Try to take care of yourself and take it one day at a time.

Posted 6/15/2010 9:09 PM (GMT 0)
Sorry to hear about your baby. This may not be due to your UC. My daughter-in-law lost a baby after 10 weeks about 18 months ago and she had no health issues. She got pregnant a few months later and now has a healthy baby. I know that you must feed down, just as our family did after her miscarrage, but I am sure that better times for you are near. I will keep you in my prayers.
Posted 6/15/2010 10:28 PM (GMT 0)
I am so so sorry to hear about your loss. Please try to take care of yourself and lean on friends and family to help get you through. So sorry.
Posted 6/15/2010 10:48 PM (GMT 0)
((((HUGS!!!!!!!!!!))))
Posted 6/15/2010 11:56 PM (GMT 0)
I am so sorry but know what you are going through. I miscarried at 3 months. I know it truly is losing a child. Take care of yourself, allow yourself to grieve and DO NOT blame yourself....nature can simply be very cruel at times.
Posted 6/16/2010 1:36 AM (GMT 0)
I am so sorry, Boxermom. I agree with everyone else-try not to blame yourself. Many many women experience the heartbreak of miscarriage, and it is not your fault.

You are in my thoughts, and I will pray for you to find healing, both emotionally and physically, as well as peace.
Posted 6/16/2010 3:34 AM (GMT 0)
I'm so sorry for your loss.
Posted 6/16/2010 4:30 AM (GMT 0)
I am sorry. That is truly terrible to hear. *hugs*
Posted 6/16/2010 5:04 AM (GMT 0)
So sorry to hear that you lost your baby. Hang in there. You're in my prayers.
Posted 6/16/2010 5:19 AM (GMT 0)
Condolences to you and your husband. I hope each day has you feeling a bit stronger.

q xx
Posted 6/16/2010 11:15 AM (GMT 0)
Sorry for your loss.. So, so sad.. Hope you feel better soon.
Posted 6/16/2010 1:01 PM (GMT 0)
Very sorry for your loss. I can't even imagine how you must be feeling right now.
Posted 6/16/2010 2:32 PM (GMT 0)
So deeply sorry for your loss. I know there are no adequate words. I agree with all that this is not your fault. Sending you prayers!
Posted 6/16/2010 2:53 PM (GMT 0)
I'm so sorry! Please take care of yourself and know that it is not your fault. These things just happen. My mom told me, when I had my miscarriage, that he/she just needed to go back and try again. I found that a comforting thought. Take Care.
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