you are not crazy!!!
I opted for surgery too, i did try remi, but it didnt work, and i tried it against my better judgement.
And surgery will cure you from UC, cause once the colon is gone, the UC is gone! and its great!
You have seen someone with a pouch so you know its not bad, or gross or anything, just something thats there. Honestly, you will forget about it for a while. I've had mine for 3 and half years and there aer times when i will sit here and forget all about it, then im like oh no! and its sooo full, lol
There is no reason you cant do all those things you mention, and anything else!
Insurance does not require you to exhaust all meds, in fact in alot of cases its cheaper for them in the long run. remi is 5k a time, in a year thats like 50k or something, just for one year. My whole surgery was about 48k.
Anyway, i only tried a few things, i tried, immuran, asacol,6mp and remi. I refused to do enemas, and im sure there were other things, but i was just tired of hoping something would work and waiting on it to fail!
Personally, i chose a perm ileo, i didnt want another surgery, and im the kind of person who thinks if something can go wrong it will, so i figured if i got a jpouch i would be one of the few who have a failure with it.
Regardless of which way you go, you will feel better!