InSoFla said...
Please share the secret to controlling stress, [img]/community/emoticons/smile.gif[/img]
hahaha. First and foremost, I realized I have a choice I can make about
how to feel, always. Yes, the environment can exert certain pressures that seem to force your choices and decisions about
how to feel (i.e. some situations are just inescapably stressful), but you still ultimately have a choice on how to feel. It takes a certain level of self awareness to realize that you are making nearly sub-conscious choices to stress out. You have to extend the awareness of your own mental processes far back enough to literally "hear" yourself making almost hidden choices to feel bad about
whatever is around you. I developed a metaphor in which I realized I was "painting" the world around me certain "colors", or definitions, and more often than not, I was painting my world a lot of stressful colors. My brain would set off little stress signals about
even the most minor of things, and I didn't even realize it was happening until I took the time to carefully listen to my own mental processes.
Again, I had to do this because the left side of my colon would actually flare up in sharp pain, immediately so, every time I had a stress signal fire off that was strong enough. It was and still is a very powerful and very physical reaction. I could almost use my gut pain as a test to determine whether or not I was stressing over something or having overly negative thoughts. I very quickly realized I had to get in conscious control of the way I was interpreting my world, as it was literally making my intestines worse. By employing the power of choice, I've managed to be far less stressed about
a lot of things than I was before, and it is sweet. I'm actually grateful to my colitis for forcing me to learn how to do this.
So, employing your own ability to ultimately choose how to feel helps a lot. The series of choices I make these days is nestled within a greater philosophical framework about
the very nature of existence, which helps me make those choices easier. That framework, however, is beyond the scope of this public forum. Maybe I'll write a book someday hahaha.
This is totally off topic!