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Posted 3/13/2012 6:32 AM (GMT 0)
 It's been a while, the last time I was on here I had been debating surgery, I ended up against it. As I realized I was doing so poorly because of the insane amoutn of stress in my life at the time, not to mention that no doctor seems to be certain I actually have UC and seem to think it might be Crohns Colitis or just Crohns.

So, I guess I'm hitting mega-stress load again. Within the last month, my boyfriend of almost 2 years broke up with me, stating that among other things he couldnt handle seeing me hurt and not being able to do anything about it. My job was threatened by my District Manager. And I had to change insurance companies because my mother was laid off from her job and got a new one (thank god), but changing insurance companies was AWFUL, I was told about 8 different things by 8 different people, I almost didnt get my remicade because of the mix up. Now that I have settled my insurance issues, the stress from everything has seemed to catch up with me.

I went to the ER with instense belly pain, after a CT to make sure I didnt have anything else wrong, they decided I'm in a flare up and have an infection. I was put on the dreaded pred., and now I am having a very hard time trying to keep my head up. I am in no way shape or form getting over my boyfriend (i've spent the last 3 weeks crying) and now to add to my looming depression, pred. makes my hair fall out, and the last time I was on it, I didn't handle it so well emotionally.

Thanks for letting me vent.

Posted 3/13/2012 10:21 AM (GMT 0)
Hey it's OK to feel stressed out and cry about your boyfriend - that's totally normal and you SHOULD get it out. I'm very sorry that you're getting slammed from every angle... I know all too well what that's like, but trust me you're going to be OK. Prednisone is no fun to be on but on the flip side there is a really good chance that your stomach will settle down and you'll start having normal BM''s again which may help with some of the other physical things you're going through.

As for the emotional stuff, make sure you let it out when it's appropriate. Even if it's just 'roid rage, it's still rage that needs to be released. Take walks, squeeze a stress ball, take a bath... whatever helps cool you down.

Most importantly, hang in there (not easy, I know). It's not always going to be so bad.
Posted 3/13/2012 1:00 PM (GMT 0)
I'm sorry you are feeling so bad. Please do your best to eliminate as much stress as you can (I know it's hard).

As far as your ex-boyfriend goes, I'm gonna be blunt and give you my "New York" opinion. If your partner cannot be supportive of you, through good and bad, that is not the right partner for you. Kick him to the curb. He did you a big favor.

Put yourself first now. Concentrate on getting yourself better. That should be your number one priority.
Posted 3/13/2012 1:08 PM (GMT 0)
Wish I could say "It'll all be OK" but right now that would be just stupid when you feel so bad.

I remember the pain of a boyfriend leaving me, horrible, cried for so long. Didn't have UC then and can't imagine having both kinds of stress.
I can tell you that his leaving is/will be the very BEST thing for you because you really need someone who will care for you through the ups and downs of a life with UC. I ended up with the best of all husbands. I look back at that bad boyfriend and see what a nightmare life with him would have been and TG he left me.

Do something "happy" for yourself every day, whether it's taking a hot bath with candles or watching a favorite movie. Try and get your good endorphins started back up. They help your UC as well as your emotional health. Can you afford a massage every now and then? Is there a massage therapy school anywhere nearby? They always need guinea pigs I mean practice people :-)

Play happy music not sad. Try and get out in the sunshine (on your skin as much as possible) or take Vitamin D. Force yourself to smile once an hour for a couple minutes. It is proven that people who smile (even when they aren't happy) start to feel better.

And keep coming here. We know what it's like, we feel and have felt your pain.
It gets better, it really does.
Posted 3/13/2012 1:19 PM (GMT 0)
I know it can seem impossible to be ok with all you are going through. But I want to share that I was diagnosed with UC in 1999 after my long time boyfriend broke up with me. UC is in my genes but I was completely depressed and stressed out more than ever. I could barely function. I know this was a huge contributing factor to turning on the switch for UC to take root. I still regret how I handled the situation today. I always wonder if I were able to control my stress and emotions if I'd have escaped UC. The funny part is, we ended up back together 4 months later. We have been married for 11 years and have two kids. You may not end up back with him but please try to realize how important managing this emotionally will effect your UC. Big hugs, I've been there.
Posted 3/13/2012 1:38 PM (GMT 0)
I know how you feel, after 2 months of Pred over Christmas I felt fine for just over 2 months, then split up with my girlfriend of 5 years, had to move house, am flaring again, work's terrible ARGHGHHGHG, back on the Pred and probably am going to be back at the hospital with a camera up my bum. And I can't even run (the one thing that reduces my stress) 'cause I've got a bl*ody ankle injury!

But.... it could be worse :) Try and keep your head up and focus on the good things - you got your insurance sorted, your Ma's got another job, you got a roof over your head and although Pred can be a pain at least hopefully it'll get your inflammation down. Then you've just gotta try and get your mind right and get out of the stress zone. If you've got the energy to during your flare try and do some exercise, really helps me control my stress and clear my mind.

All the best, I'm sure you'll get through it OK x

 

Posted 3/13/2012 2:39 PM (GMT 0)
Thanks for all the advice/feedback, it really did help to pick me up! Focusing on the the good can seem so difficult, I manage to do it for a day or two and then fall back into sadness, I am trying though. My best stress releif is yoga and I'm finding that hard to do right now but maybe with the pred I will be feeling up to it again. I can't blame the ex for starting to feel overwhelmed, he's only 22, and I feel like it's too much sometimes I cant imagine having to watch that on someone else for so long, maybe he just needs some time maybe he doesnt. I know I have to worry about myself and focus on the day ahead of me and then go from there.

Fulf- I hope things get better for you too, I just had a camera up my bum but it wasn't so bad bc I actually stayed asleep the whole time (another positive in my life)
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