I need a new forum

One where I can whinge about surgery and other things without feeling constantly guilty about being a downer. I just feel crippled with guilt half the time and it does no good for my mental state whatsoever.

Do you folks post on any other forums? Everywhere I've looked at either has about 2 new posts a week or just doesn't appeal for some reason.

PS: Even on the Depression board, I feel like there is a pressure to think positively. I can't do it. I just don't see things positively. My brain is no more geared up towards seeing things positively than a colour-blind person's eyes are for seeing red or green. All I really want to do, all the time, is moan about things. But I'm not a complete sadist, so I don't want to drag other people down with me.

Post Edited (NiceCupOfTea) : 2/27/2014 1:14:34 PM (GMT-7)

Not to be sarcastic but why don't you consider starting your own blog on Wordpress, blogspot, or some other free blogging service. It might do you some good to write freely about your struggles.

have you seen this one nice ?


www.hipforums.com/newforums/forumdisplay.php?f=27

or this ?


www.takethislife.com/

ya, go away if you want :-( but please give us your forwarding address !

although I never thought you'd be a quitter ;-)

Well, I've just spent the last hour browsing Ask Metafilter >_>. The site wants a fee of $5 to join, which I was a bit taken aback by, but clearly it works in the sense of keeping out the morons. In fact it works so well, I think YouTube should implement it and raise the collective IQ of the commenters by 1 quadrillion points.

@ks1905 - Ah yes, starting a blog. I was going to do that at one point... *hastily exhumes blog idea from the grave* I'm going to do it this time. At this rate, I won't care if my only readers are myself and my imaginary cat, just so long as I get one entry up: it'll be like a lifetime major achievement for me.

@Eva Lou - I fully understand. And that's why I didn't post in your thread. It was ridiculous: I really, really wanted to just go in there and wish you good luck, cheerfully and sincerely, and I found myself just wanting to moan instead! I couldn't pull myself out of the negativity. Feel a tad better now, so I'll wish you the best of luck right now before the urge to have another self-pity party for one comes over me. I genuinely hope it all goes well and that you are pleased with the outcome and feel like it was the best decision.

@soystud - The Whiners forum seems like it might be my kind of place, although hipforums seriously needs to sort out that design - almost as eye-watering as a 1996 Geocities website. Fortunately, I had no problems with takethislife.com. Truth is, I don't really know what to make of either forum, though, since I have no idea what the community is like. I lurked at HW for about a year before joining it... :-/

I probably should lurk at a few forums for a while, then see how they grab me. Ideally I'd want a place with a regular community and not consisting mostly of drive-by posters (which is sadly what the Crohn's board on HW has now become).

@ActiveUCer - To be fair, rainbows are ace. So much better than roses.

@laughingduck - My own personal whining thread? I love it: maybe it could even be stickied! ;p

*collapses* Phew.

I am the biggest whiner, as are many of us right here!! haha. I think you've found your place. we <3 you and we get your negativity. I am a pissy, negative, depressive person too and I went to the toilet about 10x today. ugggggh.

Do you think you'll feel better not trying to keep your whining (or whingeing) under control?
THINK OF THE CHILDREN! (Ok that was facetious).

I know someone who is on the negative spectrum and he does not feel better when he complains constantly, he likes someone to point out the bright spots and is better when he doesn't live in a negative-colored world. But that's him, not you. (I've told him I'm not going to be his cheerleader, he needs to buck himself up not make others do it.)

There is room in this forum for all points of view as long as there is respect. Truth must be spoken. Your truth must be spoken.

PS How do you pronounce whingeing? Is it winj-ing or exactly like we say wine-ing.

Ncot, I enjoy reading your posts and I hope you will hang around even if you find another forum. There is no rule that you can't be on more than one. Whine and moan away...sometimes things just blow and it needs to be said. I hope you will stay!
B

Woah, I genuinely wasn't expecting such nice posts: the cockles of my heart have been duly warmed :p

In a nice stroke of irony, somebody on the Crohn's board reminded me that my blood group, B+, sounds like "Be Positive" when spoken aloud. I said that B- would have been so much more suitable for me... >_>

@imagardener2 - Whinge rhymes with hinge, so whingeing is basically winj-ing. Spelling it with an 'e' is optional... <_<.

@toomuchpoopin - Nah, your post was fine: in fact I agreed with it. The horror stories get me down in the sense that I'm not an optimistic person and so I end up feeling pessimistic about their chances. Then I get angry that the meds we have don't work for everyone, and so on. I can certainly see why people in the caring professions "burn out" after so many years. You would need to have a very resilient personality not to do so, I reckon.

@embersglow - Let it all out, sister! Don't hold back! :p

And what you said about your husband sniffling over his little cold got a mental cheer from me! Oh good god, yes. Every single time I hear a member of my family moaning for 15 minutes about how awful their cold is, I want to deck them so hard. I'd mind less if any of them were prepared to sit and listen to me talk about my illness, but not a single one could give a carrot that I've felt more ill for entire months at a time than they have for a few days with their piffling cold: higher fevers, definitely a higher BM count, vastly more pain, tons more fatigue, and so on.

Hit upon a sore spot of mine? No way... >.>

To everyone else I didn't mention by name: thank you, guys. Gotta go to bed now.

*collapses*

Pretty sure shes Kathy Bates... who is awesome.

I also believe you should whine if you want. Both sides to treatment plans should always be presented. It's just that woof wuf goes too far. I think the majority of surgeries bring great relief but that doesn't mean there aren't any horror stories out there.

I say, don't go. If no one likes your posts, they don't have to read them. This is a place where we can go to vent or a place where we come to celebrate our remissions.