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Posted 5/15/2014 4:45 PM (GMT 0)
My aunt passed away yesterday. I wont even detail the sh!tshow that was her medical care since I last wrote about it. More appalling is how mean everyone in my family is being to each other.

She started bleeding internally yesterday and there was just nothing more that could be done. She was in ICU for 2.5 months.

So, back to NY. This time I think Im going to stay for a month and take the kids to our cabin in the poconos on a lake where there is no internet and they can catch fireflies and tadpoles. I want to submerge myself in beautiful.

Right now hometown is not beautiful.... it is on fire. My city is literally surrounded it fire. It looks like Armageddon. Our home is safe as it is on the coast, but so many friends are not so lucky.. even those whose homes are standing, their belongings are ruined and they wont be able to return for awhile.

Anway, Ill be gone again I dont know if Ill be back.

I think Ive said most of what I have to say now. I do believe you can heal from UC, Ive posted lots of ideas of how. I think I may have served my purpose here. Im well.

I hope you all find wellness too.

Promise Ill come back if I ever relapse. ;)
Posted 5/15/2014 4:54 PM (GMT 0)
Love the Poconos! Take care.
Posted 5/15/2014 5:00 PM (GMT 0)
I do believe you can heal from UC, Ive posted lots of ideas of how.

Fear holds a man prisoner. Hope sets him free. Belief is a vital component of any healing process. Your ideas have been put to wonderful use and have helped many here.

Wishing you the best.
Posted 5/15/2014 5:17 PM (GMT 0)
Take care Path. Thanks for all the insight you have provided in your posts. I hope to see you back here for reasons other than a relapse!
Posted 5/15/2014 5:44 PM (GMT 0)
PK, so sorry to see you go, but totally understand. I hope you will eventually decide to come back just to check in. You will be missed!
Be well,
B
Posted 5/15/2014 6:58 PM (GMT 0)
I am sorry to hear if your aunt's passing and how your family is behaving. I hope your home in CA stays safe and you and your daughters find peace!
Posted 5/15/2014 7:20 PM (GMT 0)
Pathogen..firstly, thank you for taking the time to give me some info on the other thread re Candida...very much appreciated!

I do hope you come back, perhaps when things have settled down, and your in calmer waters? Because In the short time I have been on this forum, I have enjoyed your posts, they have been very helpful to me....you sound like a lovely person... I'm wishing the best to you and your family at this difficult time.
Posted 5/15/2014 7:25 PM (GMT 0)
Thinking of you PK, I know a death in the family doesn't always bring out the best in people. Plus the fires in southern California are horrendous -- so sorry for your friends. Take some time and surround yourself in peace and beauty; sounds like you have found a lovely place to take your daughters. Thanks for all of your advice.
Posted 5/16/2014 1:29 AM (GMT 0)
PK..Will definitely miss your Insights and links. I never missed reading your comments.Wishing you all the very best in life....Take care....
Posted 5/16/2014 2:51 AM (GMT 0)
PK, best wishes to you. My sympathies to you about your aunt. I think it is obvious how much you've tried to help your family and her. Hopefully you can find solace sharing quiet time in nature with your kids.
Posted 5/16/2014 2:52 PM (GMT 0)
Deepest condolences to you about your aunt. Sounds like a hell the family is creating for themselves, which is sad.

It's scary to hear about the fires in your area, heartbreaking to hear of the loss.

Take care of yourself....if you return, I hope it's not when you're flaring.

q
Posted 5/16/2014 3:00 PM (GMT 0)
Im so sorry about the passing of your aunt,
Im so sad to read that you may not come back to the forum, but on the other hand i'm glad that you are feeling good and spending time with family. Im gonna miss your posts, your emails, your advice. Yes you will be sorely missed.

Im glad to have known you, you are an amazing person and i wish you all the best in life.
xxx
Posted 5/16/2014 4:51 PM (GMT 0)
I'll miss your interesting posts. Glad you can spend time with nature, it's always been my best mental therapy. We usually spend 1 to 2 months traveling to beautiful parks in the summer but this year we're staying home (it's also beautiful here in SW Florida in the summer).

You brought new ideas to this forum. Cheers on the rest of your life. Come back sometime and say hi.
Posted 5/16/2014 4:54 PM (GMT 0)
Peace be with you, PathogenKiller and may your remission last forever.
Posted 5/17/2014 1:22 AM (GMT 0)
I'll second that Gonk! Beautifully said. May yr remission last forever PK!
Posted 5/17/2014 5:28 AM (GMT 0)
PK,
condolences on your aunt's passing and your family's behavior. :(

thanks for all the info you've shared here, it will have to be enough for us while you're gone.
Posted 5/17/2014 12:31 PM (GMT 0)
sorry for your loss pk :-(

hope things go well in the days ahead -

we'll miss you !
Posted 5/17/2014 3:10 PM (GMT 0)
Thanks everyone. Im headed there today.

Ugh. What a mess. Hopefully Ill keep from physically harming my ahole cousin. After I left she reported my uncle(my aunt's husband) for mixing milk thistle into my aunts apple sauce. Causing all kinds of hurt feelings and rift down the middle of people picking sides. She is a child psychologist and said that she had to report him because of her oath. Then they all demonized my uncle who was trying to keep her gluten free, get her good vitamins.. yadda yadda. So, my mean mean, always been a miserable person, cousin and her miserable mother painted him to be a monster who killled my aunt because supposedly he didnt believe in western medicine (which isnt true. My aunt had been sick so long and just getting sicker, BOTH of them, had given up and were trying alternative treatment like diet.) And I feel partially responsible because I had to leave and so I wasnt there to stand in that gap and fight.

I hate my family right now. Seriously. My parents moved me away at 3 from a very very large italian family and I was mad at them my whole life for it.. until now. Thank God I didnt grow up with these people.

Hopefully Ill make it through the next few days without unleashing. I know it will be no good but it's been building for years now.

Anyway, you are all so sweet. I will miss you guys. Im just done missing my life behind this screen.

I hope next time I check in most of you arent even here, because you are well!
Posted 5/17/2014 6:24 PM (GMT 0)
People (family or friends) can be so toxic, and family crisis can be so enforcing of us to get in order to self-preserve, we must either burn the bridge or create strong boundaries.

We all have to adjust or create anew. Sometimes we don't emerge until we walk in another direction.

Easy process?? uh, hell no! and it constantly changes with each step of the way, reaction, reevaluation...blah, blah, blah. overwhelming to be sure.

Hang tough....keep us updated how you're doing.

q
Posted 5/18/2014 3:17 AM (GMT 0)
Just one more thank you for your insights and logic here. Best to you...check in when and if you can. Happy remission, may your days be merry and bright(ok, wrong season,lol).
Posted 5/18/2014 9:08 PM (GMT 0)
I wish you all the best Pathogen and i do believe you'll be feeling great enjoying remission all the time!!!
Posted 5/18/2014 9:57 PM (GMT 0)
Good luck PK. Sorry for your loss. I hope you can find a way to remain well through all of this damaging, negative emotion.

Thank you for all your info on MTHFR etc.
Posted 5/19/2014 1:15 AM (GMT 0)
PK I am so sorry for the loss of your aunt! I am also sorry for the fact that your family is also in conflict. It makes what you are going through so much more difficult. Give all your worries fears and pain to God and he will see you through.

Taking time with your family at the cabin sounds like just what you need. Enjoy the simple pleasures in life and give yourself time to regroup.

I will miss all of your advice and guidance. You are a very kindhearted person and I wish you nothing but the best. I do hope this is not the last we hear from you, but I do hope the remission lasts :)
Posted 5/19/2014 1:57 PM (GMT 0)
I'm going to miss you, but I understand the need to get away and detox! Thank you for all your knowledge and your help! I'm sorry about the loss of your Aunt. Hugs and smiles Path, you have been a great asset to this forum!
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