NiceCupOfTea said...
iPoop said...
I could have been off on the statistic, the general premise is the odds are fairly low. Cheers.
Cheers for not taking it personally.
I would've left it, but I see enough people make comments about
not having kids if you have UC as it is. If they believe there's a 1 in 4 chance of passing on UC, that's just grist to their mill.
It's a subject which I feel fairly strongly about
. There are many valid reasons for not wanting to have children, and I wouldn't criticise anyone who didn't. But the fear of passing on a loosely heritable condition, which for the most part is treatable, isn't one of them, imo.
I respect your position for sure, NCOT, but I feel like there are enough cases I've read about
of people my age needing to get surgery that sufficiently has scared me away from having children of my own. I know 5% may be a relatively small chance, but it is much larger than the chances anyone would have given me of ever getting IBD before I was diagnosed. A treatable condition to me is one where medicine will generally keep you stable for a long long time and the current crop of IBD medications doesn't fit the bill for me, especially if most of the medications for it are powerful immunosuppressives.
For me, IBD isn't the only reason I decided not to have children, OCD and eating disorders run throughout my family, and I am the only one I know of with all three of these conditions, and who knows what i'll develop in the future. Hopefully nothing else. I am happy with my life and I am fighting every day to break even, but I definitely wouldn't want to bring someone else in this world who has to fight so hard just even meet a decent standard of living. That's just my perspective. I enjoy my life and am okay with whatever happens to me, but deciding not to potentially subject my offspring to these conditions plays a big role in the peace I feel.
This isn't meant to convince anyone of anything, I know having children is a big desire for a lot of people. I just felt the need to post my feelings is all. It is an emotional subject for me too as of late, but I respect that every person will weigh the pros and cons and has the right to choose.