Who do YOU tell when you're flaring?

I'm curious as to what other people do when they flare...

I tell my hubby for sure.  Well, he'd find out one way or another.  This flare I've been giving him a bit more info that he probably wants - but it HURTS! so he needs to know.  I usually down play the issues, but that's not really a good idea - so I'm trying not to do that anymore.  If I'm feeling good for a few minutes - he knows about that too. 

Obviously the doc.  We don't live near any other relatives, so no reason to tell them.  But do you tell your parents?  Anyone who lives with you would need to know.  Do you tell co-workers?

I don't really want it going around the work place - only two co-workers know I have UC - but I'm in the bathroom so much now that someone HAS to notice.  I feel bad for the guy who faces the door that leads to the bathroom...

How do you bring up the subject?

 

Who I tell depends on severity. My husband knows how I feel almost every minute of the day. I hold nothing back from him on his request.

If I am feeling bad enough to make an appointment with my GI and not just play phone tag with him it's usually time to tell my parents and my 2 best friends.

If whatever the first regimn of meds are don't work (rectals, asa's) then my social circle knows a little more (I don't lie about canceled plans, if i'm not feeling well the person gets the truth)

If the second round meds don't work (pred) I tell everyone and anyone who will listen to me whine. This is when inlaws usually find out and by now my mom has told everyone she knows that I am sick. So about half of the town i grew up in knows. My mom is a talker and very proud of how she says I "handle" my disease. She likes to tell people. I've become ok with this.

Work all depends on how long i have been there. This time around i haven't told many people at work. I am a sub and don't want UC to affect a possbile full time spot. I have told a few teachers (who don't talk to administrators anyway) one of whom what just dx'd with crohns. It was easy to tell a few other teachers who knew the one recently dx'd. They liked having someone else to ask questions. My last job knew from when i was hired. All i had said was i may need the washroom more often but it didn't affect that job at all so they were fine with it.


When i have to bring it up to someone knew I usually try to start with a joke of some sort.

My doctor is the first to know, then I tell my close friends and family