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Posted 8/27/2008 9:29 PM (GMT 0)
Thankfully after about two months of barely doing it... because i was always sick and tired... and taking rectal meds at night didn't make it easier..... we've started again and I am starting to want it more and more. I definitely had that stage of god I feel gross and I so don't want to go there.
Posted 8/28/2008 11:14 AM (GMT 0)
Donna and Steph - please tone it down. What Harpo wrote is border line and I am going to ask other mods opinions on this ok? This thread does pertain to sex, low sex drive and how we cope with it while flaring. Yes this is a PG13 site but for instance, many PG13 movies still refer to sexual acts in those types of movies. But, let me ask the consensus of other mods and see what they say ok?
Posted 8/28/2008 5:32 PM (GMT 0)
SCgal,

Try to help him relate to what you feel as far as the other things. I was fortunate my husband went through a bought of the flu that came with about a week straight of D. Yes I felt horribly bad for him don't get me wrong but I used it as a teaching tool. It seemed to hit home for him and help him understand what I was dealing with. As he was getting better I explained that the way he'd been feeling for the last week . . .exhausted all the time, abdominal discomfort to pain and sudden out of the blue urges for the bathroom is what I dealt with all the time. Then I asked him. . . "how intimate do you feel right now" He REALLY understood that because at the time he'd just went through a bathroom trip and felt like total "skuz" was his word for it.
Posted 8/28/2008 6:01 PM (GMT 0)
I think this is a great thread touching on a topic that many of us avoid, even though we're very open about other "gross" things and talk freely about bms, fissures, etc.

Staying intimate when one partner is ill takes a lot of work from both parties. The ill person must make an effort and the well person must understand. Part of this - like Mark & Megan talked about - is being intimate without sex. The ill person telling the well person honsetly how they are feeling and not hiding things.

I find, like others have said, if I get that feeling I can tell my husband - "let's go upstairs NOW". We've also tried to find positions that don't put as much pressure on my abdomen or, in my case, put some extra pressure there to keep things from "jiggling" around. Sometimes it's a mental block on my end and a few minutes of thinking about "it" will help get me in the mood.

Best of luck to you :)
Posted 8/28/2008 7:00 PM (GMT 0)
mimbot

Before uc i was fine in that department, in fact when I used to get spam emails saying, "purchase super viagra", i used to laugh and say, "they obviously didn't do any demographics before they sent that out". But after uc, things were different...things got to the point where "frankie" appeared lethargic or near death and nothing (mind control, multi-vitamins and yes, viagra..lol ), helped. However, once i applied myself to a diet, things returned to normal...all right, almost normal...lol

Besides diet, i have found other things that helped like exercise and rest...which just happen to be stress relievers. Before the diet, i had to improvise because "frankie" sometimes ran out of steam leaving me in an embarrasing situation...lol, and it's pretty darn hard driving a car on a flat tire, trust me! wink

NBT

Posted 8/29/2008 5:31 PM (GMT 0)
wow--thanks everyone for you advice and support! it was hard having to deal with this and talk about it since im only 26, everything was fine until uc--but i will aslo work on the diet and exericise, cause i know once i "feel better" about myself ill prob get that stuff out of my head, and maybe be able to be a little more open and initmate with my husband!

thanks everyone for your support on this, like ive said, this is my first time on here,but it really helps to know other ppl are going through the same things :)

 

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