Hi Paul,
Sounds like you've really been through it the last couple of weeks.
I had my colon out in Sept. of 2007 and I some of the same complications that you had.
I had an ileus so I ended up being in the hospital for 14 days, had 3 NG tubes inserted and removed during that time,
couldn't keep anything down for the first 12 days after the surgery. I also had my surgery with an open incision, so
I have a vertical scar about 9-10 inches long. I was diagnosed with UC in my mid-twenties and was 53 when I had my surgery.
I was first discharged 9 days post-op but didn't even make it out of the hospital before I started throwing up and ended up
pulling my incision open a couple of inches, and was re-admitted for another 5 days.
In my case the surgeon let me keep the rectum so he re-attached the ileum to the top of the recturm so I never had a stoma.
My surgery was because of dysplasia showing up in one of the biopsies from my last colonoscopy in May of 2007, but they let me keep my rectum because the lower part of my colon didn't show any signs of colon disease. They did find cancer in my ascending colon after the colon was removed, but the cancer was only .1 centimeter in size and had not spread beyond the mucosa and sub-mucosa.
So I hope you get to go home soon and continue to improve. It may take a couple of months, maybe longer, before you get your strength back, but you will get better.
It will also take a while for your body to adjust to the new "plumbing" but at 14 months post-op I can do most of what I was able to do before the surgery. I had a friend at work who had had j-pouch surgery and had told me to look at the surgery as not the end of all troubles but the beginning of my body adjusting to a new normal.
By the way, did you have the j-pouch surgery? I wondered because you mentioned a 2nd surgery later.
Rick