I feel bad for my boyfriend too. I personally don't find orgasms to be the "end all be all". It's fun here and there but I don't need to have them all the time.
I guess orgasming is more important to him than it is to me. That's why I say I think my problem lies in disinterest in sex. Sex is not a top priority. Wish it was. I am a lot more interested in eating, sleeping, cooking, doing research, playing with my dog, hiking... Too bad sex is such a huge part of how we define a relationship.