Mom2Panda....my heart goes out to you. I've walked in your shoes. However, I was already retired from the work force when my UC (actually proctitis) became really bad. I just cannot imagine the fear that strikes you while driving in your car and get that feeling...uh oh..I gotta get to a bathroom FAST. Someone mentioned a port a pot in your car. Well, that will only work if you have a van of some sort. We had an Astro Van and kept the port a pot in the back and yes, I did use it on occasion. Not a pleasant experience, but then I didn't have much of a choice. I can remember one time going to my daughter's home. She only lives 15 minutes away by car. My husband was driving, I was sitting in the front seat and WHAM...gotta go. I scrambled to the back while hubby was still driving, he couldn't pull over, and I just about made it onto the pot. Thank goodness we had the shaded glass and people couldn't see into the van. However, hubby had to make a sharp turn and I almost tumbled over while still on the pot..lol...oy..what an experience.
I do hope you find relief soon. Guess you know I ran the gamut of meds. Prednisone gave me osteoporosis. While on it, I suffered with very high blood pressure and high glucose levels, so just be very careful and be monitored.
I also understand your feelings about wanting to avoid surgery. No one was more scared to have surgery than I. I sometimes cannot believe I actually went through it..lol. If your situation does not improve and you find yourself facing surgery, find the best colorectal surgeon in your area and do your homework. For now though, I'll keep praying for your health to improve and for the Remi to do its job!!!