How do you define the elusive "remission"?

I'll be traveling to the US tomorrow to visit my doctor, and I have so many questions.

Just as a benchmark, I was wondering how you all define "remission"? Does it mean pooping once a day, with a nice big formed S or C shaped poop? Does it mean being able to eat/drink whatever you want, including booze and high fiber foods? Does it mean not feeling your colon all day long? No pain in that area?

Basically, does it mean feeling like I felt when I was 18 and never gave my colon a second thought? If so, I'm far from it.

While I only have one or two bm's a day, they are not formed. I also have urgency when those bm's come, like a min to get to the bathroom. I used to have accidents once a day, now I have them once a week, but doesn't remission mean not having accidents?

I also am very careful about not eating raw fruits and veggies, and no fiber at all. I don't drink either. Last night I had two glasses of champagne (and they were lovely) today I've had 3 loose stools and urgency (hadn't had 3 stools in one morning for months).

Arrgh! Doesn't remission mean not having to be careful or scared any more?

Remission differs from person to person, but for me remission is no pain, bleeding, urgency or cramping. I've only had one accident in 20 years and that was only because I coughed while making a bathroom dash! lol I am in remission now but I still have D on occasion due to my other gut issues so I can't include the no D in remission. I go anywhere from 1-4 times a day. I eat pretty much what I want but I still eat fruits and veggies in moderation. I also have a few weekend beverages that doesn't seem to interfere much other than causing me to have looser stool the next day - which I most time have anyway.

So basically, remission is not having to worry about where the bathroom is :)