harrumph, another vent

I know that plenty of you have had far more "advice" and "help" from friends and family members than you can reasonably stand, but my family has been more or less in denial so I haven't been overwhelmed by that kind of thing.

So when I was given unsolicited "advice" by a friend of my boyfriend, it really irritated me.

I know she means well, but she got my (unemployed) boyfriend to join a pyramid scheme at a cost of $1000 plus $150 per month which I didn't find out about for 6 months, during which time I was paying for most of our socializing and even giving him cash here and there, including a couple hundred to buy interview clothes with and including buying his son a generous wedding gift when he (my boyfriend) couldn't afford to get them anything. You better believe I wouldn't have been so generous if I'd known that he was throwing money away to an organization run by a guy who has been convicted of fraud on several occasions.

So this friend recently sent my boyfriend an email that included the "unsolicited testimony" of someone who supposedly had UC and was "cured" using alternative medicine. I quite frankly wasn't even interested in hearing it, but to be FAIR and open MINDED, I read the thing.

Which turned out to be a sales pitch for two patented medicines sold my the fraudster. Don't take my word for it that he's a fraudster, either. On his websites, he admits to the fraud and says it was a youthful indiscretion that was destined to teach him and others an important lesson.

I have to be honest. It disturbs me greatly that my boyfriend is so gullible and naive that he is more willing to lean on me for money (which he says he hates to do) than to say no to this friend, who got him to join because if she had one more sale, she could advance to "level 3." It disturbs me that he thinks that he's getting $150 worth of content a month when all I've seen of the organization is more and more profit opportunities for the founder.

My boyfriend is an adult and I can't tell him what to do with his money, and thank GOD he recently got a new job (he starts tomorrow). In the meantime, just this week I've paid for stuff for him or loaned him money to the tune of $300.

This friend has given my boyfriend advice for me in the past, as well. According to her, membership in the organization includes access to a super-secret website that gives super-secret health information that will cure you of any and all diseases, but you have to pay all that money to find out about the cures. Out of the goodness of her heart (and certainly without any prompting from me), she checked the super-secret health website for UC, and gave him information to pass on to me that wasn't even as good as the info you'll find on the free website known as wikipedia. After that experience, I simply don't know why he thought I should read her email.

I'm very very frustrated and angry.

Maybe ask your boyfriend why he's involved with that type of pyramid. Is he selling stuff to others?

Request from him that he email the friend to stop further info regarding UC because you're not interested.

Sales are sales, it comes with solicitation because the only way they make money is to sell and get someone else to work under them.

There are many, however, who would love to purchase anything that would help with UC.

Just put down your boundaries, and that should be initially regarding your boyfriend then the friend.

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DBwithUC, you're right. I'm mad at her but I know it's just stupidity and ignorance. I doubt very much that he told her that the initial info she gave him was useless and outdated. I really am much more angry with him and he really doesn't understand why I feel the way I do.

It's frustrating, because at heart he is a really nice man. I just don't know whether the relationship is still working.