OT - Unfriended

Hurts your feelings I'm sure. How old is he?

tornado said...
He didn't unfriend his absentee father. eyes

Oh. So is he mad because you've been doing some "parenting" lately? Or maybe he is about to do something that would require 'parenting' if you knew about it?

We sometimes use messenger to communicate. I never post on his timeline, but I do tag him in photos sometimes. (At restaurants we've taken him to, or on trips we've taken him on.)

I asked him why he unfriended just the two of us, and he said, "We're not friends." True enough.

He should know how to use friend lists. He clearly doesn't care if his grandparents see what he posts, since they're still friends.

I wish I could work more. Maybe I'll get a second job and just stay out of the house until he leaves.

:(. It would hurt me too.. Especially the absentee father getting a buy.

And you wanting to work more makes my heart hurt. I'd tell him that it hurt me. We may not be friends but we are family and family means you don't get to shut those that LOVE you out. Love trumps friendship.

Sorry he's being an ungrateful butt head. 17 year olds are generally bad decision makers. ((Hug))

Yeah, I know Facebook is a stupid reason for drama. That doesn't mean it doesn't sting though.

I can eat dinner with him, but I really don't want to. He's not enjoyable to be around.

I guess I'm not really missing much on Facebook. :)

he is 17 - he probably has a brain, but most of his actions are not controlled by it - another part of his anatomy does that

I kind of figured that but maybe that's the way he feels. Who knows, maybe one of his friends found out their parents were snooping on them and it's got him thinking.

I second gary's and coffeencake's remarks (i was a butt head then as well and now have the utmost trust and respect for my parents). Give him some space and time. Trying to figure out a 17 year old seems at least to me to be a fools errand. And besides if you get curious what he's been up to on facebook lately then give grandma a call.

I am such an individualistic person that at that age I would definitely want some space. If I were living with my parents, had rules, had them being good parents... I would want some way to be myself. Facebook is the place where many of us interact most with friends, so I'd just assume he is wanting to relate to them as an individual without you guys seeing all of that along with everything you see every day. He just wants some space I think.

Think about this though: at 17 how many things did you have yet to learn still that are obvious to you now? At that age teens are just getting their legs under them and are about to be thrown into God knows what kind of real world situation. If he wasn't considerate in the way he has handled it it would be best to forgive him and accept that it's just the phase of life.

**I am not a parent though, so take this as simply a 29 year old guys opinion on things. Seventeen doesn't seem that long ago to me... although I guess it's getting to be.

I was absolutely horrible at 17. I was much more extreme than my son is now. There were car wrecks and school suspensions, not to mention the day to day hell I must have been to be around. There were also academic scholarships to prestigious universities.

I'm with Sherry. I have no guesses as to where technology will be when my kiddos are teens, but I intend to keep an eye on what they're doing. There's a lot of stuff that can go so wrong with interactions on the internet. Remember, some kids have committed suicide because of on-line bullying. My parents kept tabs on me, and I know that at times, I didn't like it too much, but am now grateful for what they did. A lot of people wonder what's going on with the world, regarding all of the horrible violence, school shootings, etc., and IMO, a lot of it is because families are too darn busy anymore and don't spend enough time with each other. You have to spend quality time with your kids in order to pick up on the little warning signs to help prevent much bigger trouble down the road. This is a big, big reason that I've chosen to forego a tenure-track professorship -- it wouldn't allow me the time to be the type of mom I want to be.

My son is 16, almost 17. If it helps to hear it, he keeps breaking my heart. Sometimes when he asks for permission to go out on Friday, instead of replying, be home at 11 o'clock, I want to say be back Sunday night.

He's is trying to break up with me and he's not being a gentleman about it.