Unpredictable colitis and food

I am going through something similar. I started seeing someone new and we've been out to dinner almost every night this week. I never eat at restaurants but he really loves to so I figured what the heck. I got pretty sick the next day after our second date and was on the verge of throwing up all day- such bad nausea. I'm embarrassed to explain to him that I need to be really careful about what I eat!!! He already wants to take me to a fondue restaurant and I am lactose intolerant but will probably just go along with it and get horribly ill.

Yeah, I will have to be honest with him eventually about my disease. I just don't like talking about it!!! It makes me feel like such a loser : (

Andrina
It's very hard when you cannot predict whether a certain food will cause symptoms but it's always your choice whether to eat it, you are the one who is taking the chance of suffering later. Try to see their side of it just a little because they cannot figure out what to serve you. But...they do not get to tell you that grains and fruit are OK for you, they just don't.

Don't let it drive a wedge between you and your family and friends. Bring a "safe" food when eating at their house, just in case there is absolutely nothing you can eat. My husband understands, finally, and I never have to explain when I'm eating something known to cause problems later just because I WANT to eat it and will pay the price my gut charges (talking 'bout Ben&Jerry's ice cream).

BaconGirl
Don't eat stuff that makes you feel bad just to be a nice girl. Your health comes first. Be honest about not being able to eat cheese/fondue. Don't start a relationship based on white lies or your date will wonder what else you aren't telling the truth about.

Food is such a primal thing and some people are quick to be offended when you can't eat what they made for you. That's why I am upfront which sometimes works and other times doesn't. I LOVE restaurants (well not fondue types) because there is always something I can find on the menu to eat. (old story follows) A friend who knew I was gluten-free invited us to their home for dinner, just the 4 of us not a party. She served Panko breaded chicken!! I scraped it off as best I could and didn't mention it (I'm not celiac so no anaphylactic shock ha) and ate what I could. Some years later later she discovered she also is gluten-intolerant but we have since lost touch, not due to that dinner but just not much (else) in common.

I admit when I meet someone with similar food restrictions I feel a kinship. Our food lists may not match but we know what it's like to be judged or considered "odd".

i tend to stay out of these girl talks, but just wanted to say, do what feels right because there is no real right -

have fun B-girl !

although remember fondue often has flour in it, which could be problematic.

Andrina: If they cannot understand, just walk away. No sense in giving yourself more stress.

I have no issues with Joanna sharing in my thread. Thanks all for responding.