Eugenia and Mary Love
I do not know what is causing your throat problem Eugenia, have you seen an ENT?
Anxiety I know well.
Cognitive-behavioral therapy is based on the idea that our thoughts cause our feelings and behaviors, not external things, like people, situations, and events. The benefit of this fact is that we can change the way we think to feel / act better even if the situation does not change. There is a free online CBT course that you can do online in your own time frame. I will post the link here:
MoodGYM http://moodgym.anu.edu.au/
We can learn to value ourselves in spite of feeling anxious. . . As adults we often believe we must continually justify our place in the world, that we have to somehow prove to other people that we are , extremely self confident and worthy of their esteem . We will spend excessive amounts of time feeling anxious and afraid that we won’t meet other people expectation and we lose sight of the basic fact that we are usually all right just as we are, in spite of the fact that we are not perfect.
Leave the past in the past and let the future take care of itself. don't over-think what is going on. Just look around you and see where you are and know you are ok.
Welcome to anxiety and do feel comfortable posting in the anxiety forum whenever you feel like it. There are many of us and we are all here to help you.
Gentle Hugs
Kitt