alzheimer's for ten years and in a nursing home

Dear Friends,

I have written before several times on this forum but

It has been quite awhile ago.  It was about ten years ago when mother began having symtoms of alzheimer's. 

 She is in a nursing home now and in a wheelchair.  She can no longer help lift herself up to go to the bathroom, so someone has to support all of her weight and it takes two people to put her on the  commode and put her to bed.  My brother goes during the day and I go  in the evening and feed her supper and stay until after she is in bed for the night.  She sleeps all of the time unless she is taken down for meals or to have a bath.  She cannot talk anymore but tries at times but we can't understand her.  I know this must be very frustrating for her.  She doesn't know who we are anymore. Her face used to light up with my brother or I would walk in, but not anymore and for the last  six weeks, she sits with her head down which she never used to do. I know she is in the final stage of alzheimer's and I hope the Lord takes her before she is completely bedridden.  My brother

has told me  how terrible the final stage of alzheimer's in. Mother is 86.  It's very hard to see her like this. She was always such an indenpendent person and worked all of her life. 

Wiggyann

I too am so sorry for your pain
i have been thru a situation where i was found in a seizure from there on life support
i had forgotten most of the ppl in my life and this really hurt my daughter Cait
i hv regained most of memory but am totally deaf and still quite weak
i honestly felt like just giving up for awhile but i know i have reasons to stiull be here or i would have not lived thru what i did
both my parents had alzheimers and i lost them within 2 yrs of each other
i believe dad just gave up without his love my mom..
again im so sorry i do feel your pain n i also can empathize with your mother
it is very scary n hard not to remember ....huggs to you
lyn

Hi there
from what they think with mom n dad passing away howie leaving and just other issues as well i just basically blew a gasket
i will never get hearing back hun its gone
but thanks for your kind thoughts
blessings
lyn

 

  Dear Lyn,

  What a trooper you are :-)  My brother who is a vietnam

  vet developed a form of maculer degeneration in his

  late twenties.  Eye specialists from all over the United 

  States  have come to the veteran's hospital to check out 

  his eyes and they still don't know exactly what he has.

  He worked as long as he could and then he drove as

  long as he could.  Then, he moved in with mother

  and lived with her for over twenty years.  He is the one

  who took care of her for about six or seven years before

  she went into the nursing home.  But he never complains.

  You remind me of him.  'Did you have to learn sign

  language?

  Wiggyann

 

Dear Lyn,

 I just wanted to say that I hope the sign language

 will be easy for you to learn :-) 

 I watched a  movie last year, "The Family Stone"

 and one of the young men in the family was deaf

 and all during the movie, members of the family

 signed to him when someone else was talking.

 That was the first time I have ever seen anything

 like that in a movie and it really touched me.

 The movie is a comedy.

 Wiggyann