My Dad

    Dad Has Alzeimer's     Someome please taik to me

 I started careing for him 4 months ago and during Ike Dad was exposing himself me to ,calling me my

stepmother name and just action all crazy  .Right now Dad is concised that someone is coming

inside the house and taking his wallet and driving his S.U.V and he is talking back into his child

and even talking about death                                             Debbie                                                                                 

Hi Debbie, Try contacting your local Alzheimer's Association. They may have some good resources for you. The things he is doing are so common with this dd. I'm so sorry he is having such a hard time. This disease really robs them of their dignity. When dad did anything that was totally out of line, I would just sharply say "HEY!" and it seemed to distract him enough to get him on a new thought. I made sure that I didn't disrespect him . . . but he was aware that I had boundaries. I hope your Alz Assoc is able to give you some good guidance. You can also post specici questions here. Blessings!

Dear Debbie: I am caring for my dad. He also says and does unacceptable, wrong things. He swears at me. He talks dirty. He calls me by my stepmother's name. I agree with Always Rosie. You have to decide what you will put up with and what you won't. I tell my Dad he cannot talk dirty or be mean to me. When he does I leave the room. I go to my room, close the door and my dog lies between me and the door and he is scared of her. He won't come in. When I don't have the dog, I bolt the door or push a dresser up against it. I give him "time out" by me leaving the room. He depends on me for almost everything, changing the channel on TV, getting him food, finding his keys. Finding his wallet. Telling him what day it is. Everything. When I go to my room and close the door he is helpless. I only stay in my room for a little while. Then I come out and we start over, like a new day. It is the hardest job in the world. I hear people say being a mother is hardest. No way! Caring for a person with Alzheimer's is hardest. You get a medal for trying. Keep writing to us, please. You help us too, when you write here. Pauline