When You're Alone

First I am so sorry
I do know what it is like to be really ill and still have to look after both parents my friend
It is very difficult at times for sure

When you get the chance to talk to the neighbor
explain whats going on with your dad

Can you at least look for the number for the Alzheimers Socity and they will point you in right direction for some real HELP at home and with you and dad

Plz keep me posted k

LYN

I am so sorry
Surely they can offer RESPITE care for a day so you have some ME time

Keep me posted

LYN

Thank-you Lyn. I popped into action (the only real answer to any of life's challenges), thank-heavens there was finally a dentist who pulled that nasty tooth out of my mouth. It came in slivers and before she started, I explained I would not be leaving her office without some pain medicine so I can function, she explained I was running the risk of having a perforated sinus because there were three roots, whatever that means, and if my sinus were perforated I would need serious, immediate surgery. I said, "just put that needle in there and get pulling."So out it came minus one little piece of bone that she said wasn't worth digging for. So now I have a moderately sore mouth and not excruicating pain. I'm pleased. Then, the financial crunch was temporarily alleviated by our neighbor who did come through on the buyer for the tractor, after all. I think they (he and his wife) are terrific people. He's a very smart man. Now we can begin to problem solve around what we will do with the white elephant sitting on our property, namely the leaky, cold, mouldy, house full of cats sitting over in the mountains behind us. The neighbor to the other side called and said he'd put a roof on in exchange for another piece of property between he and us. However, as my son in Hazardous waste abatement, informs me that putting a roof on, won't solve the problem because all porous surfaces inside will still be contaminated with mould spores. I can't breathe in that house. When I go in now, I wear a mask. So, away goes tooth and tractor, in comes, what our long term living arrangements will look like. I am the one who has to figure this out. It gives me migraines but I have Zomig (which runs risk of stroke/heart attack). Some days I just need to let it be. Today is Sunday, I'm going to let it be. Thank-you (appologies for longwindedness. ) 

Thank-you Lyn: This has been a very busy and stress filled couple of weeks. I'm not sure when I'll be able to settle back into a "normal" routine. Christmas is just around the corner and we haven't heard whether brother and family, or sister, or my sons will be participating, ie. staying here with us over the hollidays. If I could have my druthers, I'd like one of them to come and take over for a couple days so I could go hang out with my sons. Get my favorite motel room in the city which now feels like home, and let someone else handle Christmas with dad and his wife in the nursing home. about three days. Next time someone asks me, what do you want for xmas, I'm going to say "three days off, in a row, and a couple of nights in a motel, near my boys." Heck with the turkey, I'll buy a can of cranberry sauce, a box of Stuff n such, dressing mix and a couple slices of smoked turkey from the deli. I get into a fairly comfortable bed, watch cable TV and only go and do whatever I want. Who knows, maybe there is a Santa Claus. I'm not sure if I'm out of the crunch yet as my dad's older brother , is having open heart surgery this coming week. We're sitting on the edge of our seats, waiting for that shoe to drop.

Then there's the big decision coming about, The Farm. Sell it, or not. You are right as is my son about the poisonous Blk. mould. You can't wish it away. The house would need to be stripped down to the concrete foundation, sprayed, then rebuilt, Not worth, i say. There's nothing holding us there except the memories and dad won't even have many of those. There are no particularly fond memories there for me. I almost died there.