new here dad diagnosed 2 years

Hello hydranea. I'm glad you found this site & I hope you get the information and support you need. I have worked on a dementia unit and a friends father was diagnosed with Alzheimers. My mother-in-law also has dementia.
My first suggestion would be to contact the nearest Alzheimers Society. They are a fantastic source of information and literature. You could talk to them in more detail about your siblings. I'm not sure about where you are but here they have a very helpful information packet for families. Have you talked to your mother about going to a support group? What was her reaction? Perhaps you could attend with her if that would be more comfortable for her.

Welcome to HW
I worked with Ad ppl and had my own retirement home after working in a few NH"s in my career
I was caregiver to Mom who passed away one yr ago and now am looking after my dad who also is declining very fast
It is a very emotional road to travel and your Mom is a special woman in doing what she does BUT she does need to have some down times as I have posted in Caregivers Needs and Emotional challenges
Please do read some of the threads we have up here as well the Resources at the side
The Alzheimer's Society is great and I do recommend it for your mom and family members
It is hard when other sibllings dont or cannot see the Disease and what it is doing
I too face this with mine I cannot stress it enough that they do need to educate themselves on the effects of AD and family members as well as the Loved one involved
The 36 Hour A Day Book is one of the best IMO.....
There is a site
as well called Alzinfo.Org where info is given as well as great newsletters and covers all aspects of this DD
This is a great support system right here and IF you can convince your mom or siblings to join they will have unconditional caring support and empathy.....
My info is under my name if you would like to email me with any questions comments or concerns
I wish you all the best and hope the visit will be all you want it to be
I have made many a great memory with Mom even with this DD and continue to make them daily with my dad ......
God Bless
Please do stay with us
LYN

Wondering how your Dad and you are making out and how the trip/visit went
LYN