Sometimes You Need to Go to Their World .........

NO I am not saying Blatantly Lie to them at all but I am saying that sometimes for their sake and piece of mind you need to go into their world with them

Listen to them and agree with them not argue as that will not work IMHO

THey still may have thoughts and memories of the past it wont hurt you to go with them as long as IT WONT HURT THEM

Take them thru old photos down memory lane and such let them know you do know and empathize with them .........

I am sure more have ideas to post

God Bless
Our Seniors and Caregivers

I do see that sparkle with Dad when I play " Jonnie Ray" or the old Big Bands "
Dad use to love to drum and he was good at it he still drums away lightly with fingers and to perfect BEAT whena song comes on he especially loves

Thanks MM for your input

Thanks MM
That is so true and thanks for sharing this story

Lyn

               Sometimes you Need to Go to Their World

This is one of my favorite posting...why? Because I'm one of them. I know exactly who they are and what they need. Everyday is a struggle for me. I'm still working full time to residential care facility for the elderly to support my children. I have two teens who depends on me. I"m not ready to lose my job so I have to prove to my employer that I'm still worthwhile to the company. So I give my best in my job. I belong to the residents. Sixteen years of Parkinsons is no joke. I know the agony and misery of being sick. So I sing with them. We play cards, we do exercise, arts and crafts, I really spend my time with them. Some of them are really out of reality, but still they deserve to be loved. It certainly gives a happy feeling when you see them smiling. They know that they are being love when you hold their hands, when you comb their hair, pat their shoulders, or give the a little massage.

They can not communicate but they can express their feelings thru their senses.

Go to their world to share your feeling with them. Share your happiness, your blessings and most of all...YOUR LOVE.

Be thankful for the difficult times...during those times we grow. I love this quotation and you can adapt it to our daily living. It's hard to be sick, physically. emotionally, financially, the whole family is affected. If you are one sided and see anly the negative side, you will be depressed. It's difficult everyday is a struggle. But I look at this difficulties as a challenge. Difficult times make you a strong person. The more I'm determined to win the battle against Parkinson's Disease. Difficult times is my inspiration to strive more for the better. I don't stop researching how to delay the progression of PD. And I'm winning everyday. I don't let my PD to be an obstacle in enjoying a normal life. As if I'm not sick. I keep on walking even my feet are twisting. Then after several steps I will notice that I'm already wallking straight. From crooked to straight because of your will to walk.
Difficult times develop my courage and determination to succeed. I know you can do it too.

Going to their world isnt always easy BUT it is a needed in very many cases and in times

Please just love them revere ,them respect and care for them as you would want to be cared for

LYN

I really believe they do and to have knowledge that they are revered and respected .............not forgotten and locked away

Bringing to top for Irishman

Red...it would really depend on where she goes with her Fantasies .IF it it something that you can bring her back to WHAT really happened on a certain day by saying something like ."Oh GMA I remember this and this happening on that day too can you ...... or you can take her and go with the reality she perceives as long as it is not way out there..

I will go with much of what dad says BUT I do remind him or correct him on some things ..I find he does not get aggitated with me or cait but will with others

I am sure you can find ways to work around this by trying lil things at a time .or if she does get WAY out there tell her 'No GMA it happened this way .as far as I remember.......

The reason we have to sometimes go to their worl is that they have reverted back in time and they always dont have the days and times together or right ..places and ppl get confused in their minds .....and sometimes it is so much easier to agree and go with it as long as it not hurtful to you or family members or GMA .......

I wish you all the best and give her a big Huggle for me k

Take care of you too

I do so admire you for all you are doing ..there are not many anymore that will have parents or loved ones in their homes as it is a very hard job at times and can be frustrating as well especially when the caregiver is sick as you are ........Be well my friend and let me know if this helps .....LYN

Sometimes you can use the delusions to help them, too. When I was in college I spent my summers working at a nursing home and many of the residents had what we now know is Alzheimers. I remember one lady in particular who had some of her nice furniture in her room and we dressed her in nice dresses with earrings and makeup every day. She could no longer take interest in feeding herself so I was usually assigned to feed her.

I was a dumb kid with no real training but I did my best. She used to refuse her meals and say she wanted to go out to eat. So I'd walk out of the room with the tray and then come back in. I'd put down the tray and ask her if she liked this place to eat. I'd tuck in her napkin, ask her if she cared for coffee and then give her a sip. In no time at all she would be eating her meal and telling me how good the service was here and how we should come back again. She called me by her sister's name (who was long dead) and said to be sure to leave a big tip.

She enjoyed those 'out to eat' lunches with her 'sister' and she ate every bite. If I would have corrected her and brought her back to the here and now she would have been saddened to remember her sister was dead and she was going to end her days in this little room. I was all too happy to let her have her fantasy...

Yes and such a GREAT way to go about it
Yes it is good to try and keep them in some semblance of reality BUT it is definitely okay to go with them to their world and my dad sure has some interesting tales to tell ......he is such a teddy bear ......

Thanks Jeannie I appreciate your input ..........For a " dumb kid" you did Dang well I would say ..Many nurses with yrs of training would not have thought of that one
Kudos to you

Input always appreciated ..........Luvs
LYN

...........Even as the end was coming and the machines were being taken off I still went with dad on his journey to meet his Maker and be with Mom

God How I miss them so..................

Cherish your parents please

I agree 100%!